Whether you’ve been hangin’ with the same crew since
kindergarten or you just found some buds at your new school, there are times
when you can tell that your pals don’t have your best interests at heart. So
when you realize that a new crop of friends is a must-have, here’s how to slip
out of your old buds’ lives without making too much of a ruckus.
Tone Down the
Don’t just stop talking to your besties all of a sudden or
completely ignore all of their calls and texts. But it is a good idea to
communicate a li’l less each day, so you can slip off their radar. Instead of
running to your old pals the next time you need advice or wanna chat about your
day, text a new friend that you’d like to get closer with. If your old friends
call or text you, it’s totally okay to respond, of course. Just don’t go out of
your way to keep up a convo with them 24/7.
When you realize that your friends aren’t a good influence,
it’s time to stop hangin’ with them. If they call and invite you to go
somewhere, tell them you’re busy. Or you can always say that your mom won’t let
you go – she probably won’t mind playing the bad guy, if it means you can focus
on making healthier friendships. After a while, your old pals will notice that
you’re not making an effort to spend time with them, and they’ll most likely
stop inviting you.
The most important thing when you’re trying to break free
from friends is that you’re still polite to them. The last thing you want is a
huge fight that ends in glares following you through the hallways at school. So
talk to your old pals if they approach you, and go hang with them once in a
long while if they still really want you to. And definitely do NOT talk badly
about them behind their backs. No matter what it was that made you decide they
weren’t the right crew for you, that is between you and them. Don’t involve
your new friends in any old drama, and do your best to just start fresh.
Hopefully your old pals will take the hint that you’re not super-thrilled to
hang with them anymore, and they’ll let you go quietly on your way.
What are your best
tips for switching friends smoothly?
BY CARRIE RUPPERT ON 9/1/2012 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN bust my bestie problem, bad friend, 411 on fighting with friends, growing apart, I'm feeling left out