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The Dirt: Why are guys so fickle with their feelings?

His answer: “Yeah, I’d definitely say guys change their minds on liking someone,” reveals Will, 16. “He might not have put any thought into it before, he could have been involved with someone else when you asked last, or it’s possible he’s gotten to know you better.”

Decoded: It’s definitely possible that he could have changed his mind—we are human after all. Crushes usually develop after you’ve spent a ton of time with another person and gotten to know them. Maybe he now sees you in a completely different light, or maybe he was getting over a rough break-up. Any number of things could have sparked his interest in you.

Your move: The important thing is that you weren't waiting around for someone to change their mind (right?). If you’re still into him, go for it. If you’ve moved on, so will he eventually.

BY ALEXIS GAVRELIS ON 9/28/2012 12:00:00 AM

Hey chica,

Well, she's still the same person as she was before you knew, isn't she? Why should you treat it any differently? She chose to confide in you because she trusted you and thought that you wouldn't treat her differently. Just because she's bisexual doesn't mean that she'll come for you next or that it'll change any aspect of your friendship, it just means that right now she likes a girl and wants to talk to you about her the same way she would a boy. I wouldn't worry about the religion of it, after all, it is her religion.

In a week or two, you would even give her sexuality a second thought. Jordan S.

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I like this guy in one of my classes. I've never held an actual long conversation with him. Hes a very outgoing and funny person. About once every week, in the middle of class, he will do something to. He's turned my music on, asked me old quiz questions, scared me, andasked me if I play any sports. I know these all sound pretty normal and such, but on Tuesday, I was doing something. He came up to me and told me I was doing a good job, called me perfect, and then said to high five him. He put up his hand and we high fired. Then he kept his hand up so I did it again, then he held my hand. (Like, intertwined fingers holding.) The he wouldn't let go for like at LEAST 7 seven seconds and he just stared at me. And I stared at the wall awkwardly (FAIL -_-) WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?! A I over analyzing this or something? Thanks!

Hey girl! Hmm, its hard to tell, but he does seem like he's flirting. That's good, since you like him! Just keep being yourself, he already sounds interested. Good luck!

xoxo

Katie L.

by Laangelita23 on 10/3/2012 2:32:37 PM

It depends on the people...but to be simple, try soda and lemonade. mailyse f.

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 1:21:29 PM

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whats some stuff i could put on my christmas list?

It depends what your style is and what budget you have. You can always put clothes on your list with your fave stores. You can also ask for cool electronics like an Ipod or even Iphone. It all depends on what you want! You still have a lot of time to think!

mailyse f.

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 1:09:12 PM

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whats some unique inexpensive gifts to ask for?

Jewelry is always a good idea! There is a lot of cute, unique jewelry out there! And a girl can never have too much jewelry! Claire's and Icings are really cool and inexpensive stores you can get unique jewelry from!

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 1:02:14 PM

mod mod mod do u want me to post the recipe for it on your profile? its a dish made out of egg noodles,cabbage and bacon and onion pretty much if u like stuff like that let me know
how much mobic pain pill can you take without risking overdose?

Hey girl, the recipe sounds delish and I'm always up for sharing. As for the pain meds, definetly ask your parent how much you should take and always read the labels. Chest pain can be a side affect from taking Mobic that means you should stop taking it and call your doc. The med can be very dangerous if misused in any way (including taking too much) so do ask for help if your unsure.

Lauren I.

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 12:58:51 PM

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i have a huge amount of homeschool work this week
i really don't want to do it all
should i leave some for next week?

Hey girl, your best bet is to buckle down and get it done. Male a schedule for yourself or work out a reward system. Maybe one hour of h.w = half an hour of tv or internet time. Then get right back to work. Focus on one thing at a time and when your done, cross it off your list. You don't want to let it pile up.

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 12:55:39 PM

mod mod mod can police search your house without a warrant if they have strong suspician of something?

Hey girl, I don't think so. I'm pretty sure they need a warrant. But I think the important thing would be to make sure you don't have anything 'suspicious' in the first place. Breaking the law never leads to good things so steer clear of anything that would get you into trouble and focus on school, fun, and being a kid.

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 12:51:51 PM

mod mod mod sorry about that! i'll post about my weekend on your profile later!
how do you think you pronounce this "halushki"
its the name of a polish dish

Hey girly, I would only know to prounounce it the way it sounds: Hall-ush-key, Why don't you try googling it. Sometimes there will be a little icon that pops up in google or in an online dictionary that will pronounce it for you. Whatever it is, it sounds like it will be fun to eat. =)

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 12:49:59 PM

mod mod mod what fragrance do you wear?

Hey girly, I have several from Britney Spear's scents. I also love Pure Orchid by Halle Berry. I imagine those could be found at Wallmart or Target.

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 12:35:03 PM

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hey girl, i've missed you! what'd you do over the weekend?

Hey girly, I had a great weekend. I had some family visit and celebrated my BF's birthday. How was yours? Let's post on my profile so that chatty convos don't get mixed up in the advice questions on the site, k? I have to answer advice first and don't want to miss any.

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 12:33:52 PM

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Hey girly, I'm not too sure but I can't imagine that they are too expensive since animal shelters are usually most concerned about finding the animal a good home.

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 12:31:55 PM

mod mod mod whats good under $20 sensous spicy kind of fragrance? and a sweet one? preferably one from victorias secret or walmart, i already have pure seduction by victorias secret
describe the smell of the scents you reccomend please xx

Hey girly, I'm not super familiar with the scents and names of fragrances from either store. But if you go to the store, you can spray the samples and see which ones are your fave before you buy them.

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 12:29:37 PM

mod mod mod my parent wants me to write a christmas list
how much stuff should i put on it?

Hey girly, I imagine you could write as much as you want on it and your parent should know that they don't have to get you everything on the list. Why not narrow it down to your top ten wishlist items.

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 12:26:26 PM

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do you use wattpad?

Hey girl, I've never heard of it. If your having trouble, try reading the directions. xoxo

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 12:25:02 PM

mod mod mod i have a headache,i'm achy and my chest hurts when i breathe
if i dont go to this activity today i wont be able to go to the hay ride tomorrow
i'm not sure if a hay ride is worth toughing out my sickness or not, are hayrides even fun?

Hey girly, hayrides are fun, but do keep your health as the top priority. Ask a parent if you can take anything for your head and maybe try a nap and see how you feel afterwords to decide if you can go or not . I hope you feel better.

by StrawberryPatchKid on 10/1/2012 12:23:58 PM

mod mod mod hey, i don't feel well and i'm hurt
how can i feel better?

Hey StrawberryPatchKid, well first we've got to figure out what is wrong with you. What hurts? Xoxo

Lynae P.

by StrawberryPatchKid on 9/30/2012 11:58:05 PM

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Ok so I like two guys right now. One is a new guy that I don't have classes with but he's on my bus and I see him often. I can't figure out what to say to him! And the other guy is a guy that I've liked before and he's known that. He teases me, but he isn't mean and he is always talking to me when we have class together. My one friend even commented and said "he's always turned around talking to you! He never faces forward!" but I don't know if he actually likes me. We texted each other every day last summer and now he won't respond. But he acts so flirty with me in class that I don't know what to do! Help please!

Hey Smileyperson, take your time with both of them. Continue getting to know them and then make your decision. It's good to be friends for a while before jumping into something serious. No worries, in time you'll know who is right for you. Hope this helps! Xoxo

by Smileyperson on 9/30/2012 10:34:12 PM

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There's this guy that a kinda like and i'm think he likes me too except im not sure. Do you think he does? Yesterday he asked me a simple question in science like "what page are we on?" and i told him. Then his friend who was sitting next to him said, "Psst! james!!!". He looked over and his friend gave him the thunmbs up sign and smiled. And then in the next period his friend looked over at me, looked at james and said something i didnt understand but he seemed to understand. They smiled and laughed too. Do any of these things mean anything??? If so what?
Thanks

Hey girl,

I'm not sure what all the whispering is about, but he might just have really wanted to know what page you were on! There's no rush to do anything yet and it sounds like he's interested in at least being friends, so try getting to know him more and see how he acts around you then.

Meghan D.

by emcee1 on 9/29/2012 10:46:59 PM

Well I like this super cute boy in my class, but I'm not really sure if he likes me or not. He talks to me A LOT and whenever he's around me he seems to joke around a lot. Ive caught him looking at me a couple times, and sometimes it really seems like he's flirting. Yesterday my friend told me that he told her the he liked me! I was s excited, but today he asked me if I knew who he liked and I said no because I didnt want him to be mad at my friend for telling me. Then he told me to tell her that the girl he said he liked (apparently me) he didn't actually like, he just thought she was pretty. What? So he doesn't like me? Or was he just saying that because he wanted her t think he didn't like me? I don't know what to do...

by Sunny79 on 9/29/2012 5:19:45 PM

MOD MOD okay soo a few weeks ago this guy told me that he might like me and i didnt really much about it! but the problem now is that im starting to like him but he is a huge flirt

i just got back from a homecoming dance and he danced a little with me but then he was slow dancing with this girl and she kissed him on the cheek and they were dancing really close to eachother durring the fast songs

i dont kno if i shuld just fess up and tell him or just forget about it!! this is the first guy i have actually liked that might actually like me back!!!

If he told you that he might like you, he might have been afraid you didn't like him back, or he might have not been sure how he felt. If you want to tell him, there's no harm in that since he already tried bringing it up with you. And if it turns out he's into someone else, there will be plenty of other guys down the road

by peacenluv22 on 9/28/2012 11:27:45 PM

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I am in 6th grade, and there is a guy I like. I told my friend, and she emailed me saying that it's not fair and I'm not allowed to like him because SHE likes him and it's not okay. Ugh what do I do?

Having the same crush as your friend is never an easy sitch...check out this post for an answer on what you should do! http://www.girlslife.com/post/2011/12/02/Boy-or-bestie.aspx

by WinnieGirlie on 9/28/2012 11:20:57 PM

My poor ex-crush

by Gabriella123 on 9/28/2012 9:08:05 PM

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One of my friends who I've known for a long time and who is one my closest friends ever told me a HUGE secret yesterday. We were hanging out at her house when she was writing something on an iPad. It read, "Random. I have a gf." I looked at her like it was a joke, but then I asked if she was serious. She said yes. Her mom doesn't know, and she has only done skype with the girl. She is still the same person, but I can't believe it. She was never girly had never really worn anything that would make her look girly. It never bothered me, but now that she told me she's bisexual, I'm scared. Only me and maybe another one of our friends know. I am not sure what to do because I don't know if this is against our religion we have as Catholics, and I'm afraid to bring up the topic with her. Please help, I'm a bit scared

Hey chica,

Well, she's still the same person as she was before you knew, isn't she? Why should you treat it any differently? She chose to confide in you because she trusted you and thought that you wouldn't treat her differently. Just because she's bisexual doesn't mean that she'll come for you next or that it'll change any aspect of your friendship, it just means that right now she likes a girl and wants to talk to you about her the same way she would a boy. I wouldn't worry about the religion of it, after all, it is her religion.

In a week or two, you would even give her sexuality a second thought. Jordan S.

by alexia_directioner<3 on 9/28/2012 7:31:56 PM

I hate when guys do that!

by j4zm09 on 9/28/2012 5:37:29 PM

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SO my friends sweet 16 is tonight..it's going be raining and it's all outside, don't ask me why they haven't postponed it..it's gonna be FREEZING too (UGH). Anyway since it's raining should my make-up be waterproof? I don't have any waterproof mascara so I'm gonna have to dart over to the store..just wondering if that would be a good call?

Hey girl! Your friend will probably set up tents or bring the party inside if it's raining. But if I were you, I would definitely go waterproof! Also, you might want to think about putting your hair up. That way it won't get frizzy and will stay fab and secure all night.

xxx

by maggie183 on 9/28/2012 4:01:21 PM

MOD MOD MOD Ok so i really like this guy and he seems to like me too...But sometimes I can't tell! So sometimes when i see him in the hallway he nudges into me (as a joke) and he walks with me and he jokes around with me alot...we talk a lot in p.e. too! I played basketball with him at the ymca one time too...that was the only real time we have hung out...how do i hangout with him again? and how can i flirt back? what should I do? he has a gf but they wont last long...thanks

From your description, it seems like he's totally into you! But he does have a girlfriend. Since you said they won't last for long anyway, how about you just wait until they break up before making a move. If you really like him, you'll wait for him.

Once/if they break up, try flirting with him by nudging him back. You guys can also talk about sports and even hang out by playing basketball together since you guys have that in common. These little things will all add up soon enough!

by zeus11 on 9/28/2012 2:59:23 PM

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I'm in 6th grade, and im starting to get interested with boys accept the only boy I like is in 7th grade and his dad is a famous fisherman that my dad loves! Is it normal that I like an older boy?

Hey girly, it's completely normal to crush on older boys in your school, in highschool or even older celebs. No cutie is too old for you to have a crush on BUT some boys are too old for you to date. 7th grade and 8th grade boys are just fine, but a highschool boy would be too old for you to date right now. xoxo

by snagmonkey on 9/28/2012 1:05:53 AM

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There is this guy i have had a crush on for a year now, but i never talk to him. We go to different schools, but i keep seeing him everywhere. In october our schools are doing a band preformence together, and i really want to talk to him themm,but i'm afraid i'll chicken out at the last minute. Help!

Hey 1Dfan99, you just gotta force yourself to do it. Maybe make a deal with yourself, sometimes I do this when there's something I'm nervous to do. Tell yourself if I don't talk to him I can't buy those new shoes I want. It usually works and it feels so good after you do the thing you want. Hope this helps! Xoxo

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