We know you heart your hunnies, but have you ever had a
friend that sometimes goes to the dark side? You know, maybe she started
offering backhanded compliments or dissing other darlings behind their back.
When this babe’s behavior gets to be too much to handle, here’s how to deal.
Secret #1 Speak your
Call your chica on her bad behavior, but watch out: Chances
are she’ll get majorly defensive. To avoid becoming a target for her sharp
tongue, keep your censure polite: “Sally, that was a really mean thing to say—I
think it really hurt Sandra’s feelings.”
Secret #2 Go straight
to the source
When you’re one-on-one with your girl, ask her why she’s
said something offensive earlier in the day. Ask leading questions that force
her to explain her actions, and avoid passing judgment. Your goal is to figure
out what personal insecurities are making her act out, not trying to get her to
clam up and see you as the behavior police.
Secret #3 Don’t be
tempted to join in
Sometimes, other people’s negativity can make us act poorly,
too. Don’t give in to peer pressure in this sitch. The thing about putting
others down is that it really doesn’t make you feel better—it makes you feel
worse. Avoid a major guilt trip by refusing to take part in toxic behavior.
Secret #4 Zip your
So Sally was talking trash about Sandra when she went to the
bathroom during lunch? Don’t tell Sandra, at least not the specifics. It’s
important for your gals to know when their friends aren’t acting particularly
friendly, but do they need to be made aware of a silly criticism that might
make them needlessly self conscious? Absolutely not.
Secret #5 Hang with a
There is no bestie rule that says ya can’t break ties with
your bud when she’s not being a good friend. If you’ve tried talking to her
about how her attitude and behavior makes you and your other friends feel, and
she’s not making an effort to change her ways, it might be time to spend some
QT with other babes.
How to do you deal
with catty friends, chicas?
BY BRITTANY TAYLOR ON 10/29/2012 2:06:00 PM
POSTED IN bust my bestie problem, bad friend, 411 on fighting with friends, dealing with jealousy, how can I help my friend, my BFF is so bossy