My BF is the
sweetest guy on the phone, but at school you can't tell we're dating. Why won't
he show he cares about me? Should I talk to him about it, drop hints or ignore
it all together?
Sounds
like a classic case of the shy sweetie! There are a ton of people, especially
guys, who are simply more comfortable sharing their feelings privately. Some
are just better at opening up this way rather than face-to-face communication which
can be intimidating at times. When deciding whether to bring this issue up, the
bottom line is: if something’s bothering you, then ya gotta speak up.
Try dropping hints the next time he shows
he cares over a phone convo. If he compliments you, say something like, “That
would make my day if you told me at my locker tomorrow morning,” or reward him
for his sweetness by slyly saying, “Now you get to hold my hand in the hallway
tomorrow.” This way you’re subtly encouraging him to show his affection in public without
pressuring him or making him feel like a bad boyfriend. If that doesn't work, ask him why he's so mum in school.
But
it's best to look on the bright side. Whether he’s telling you in person, or over
the phone, he’s still telling you! The feelings are there, so allow him some
time to get comfortable with you before displaying his true feelings in school. And if he still doesn't want to go public with his affection, let it be and savor it for when you're on the phone.
BY JENN SHELTON ON 11/11/2012 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN guys, dating advice, GL's best guy advice, boyfriend Q & A, weird guy stuff