Okay, so you’ve settled into the school year, gotten used to
the classes and prepped for the coming cold weather. There’s only
one thing left on your checklist: get with your crush! Maybe you’re just a
little shy, or maybe you’re missing those few key ideas to get a good convo started. Fear no more, ladies, we’ve got ya covered with this list
on how to reel in your crush.
Body Language
It may seem like the basics, but if your cutie sees ya with
your arms crossed and a mean look on your face, he’s hardly gonna want to
approach you. So unhook those arms from around your body, and stand tall, girl!
This pose shows confidence and makes you more approachable. That way, he’ll
come to you! When you’re already talking to him, try to face your feet towards
him and lean in slightly. This will subconsciously show your interest. Make
sure to see if he’s doing the same for you!
Compliment him
We all like to have our egos stroked from time to time, and
your crush is no different. You think his cloudy-colored tee makes his blue
eyes pop even more? Tell him so! It can be something as simple as, “I like your
shirt—it looks really good on you.” Not only are you giving him a compliment,
but you’re also letting him know you notice him and the way he looks. If you
know him better, you could compliment something a bit deeper, like his taste in
music.
Ask him about HIM
Relationships are all about give and take. If every time you
talk the convo revolves around Y-O-U, change that! If he asks you how your
weekend was, answer and throw the question back to him. Don’t be afraid to show
interest by asking him about his likes, dislikes and lifelong dreams. This way
he’ll see how down-to-earth and trustworthy you are, and that you’re not just
another face in Bio class.
Talk about the good ol' days
Now that you’ve chatted him up and found out who he is as a
person, it’s time to show that you pay attention and consider him important
enough to remember. This can be anything from recurring inside jokes, to asking
him how he did on that trig test he had the day before. Bringing up your joint
past will tighten your bond and give you plenty to talk about.
Crack a few jokes
While you want to be someone your crush can discuss life and
deep topics with, you also want to make sure he knows you’re not always Ms.
Serious. Show off your fun side by gently teasing him and cracking jokes.
Making your crush laugh will show him how much of a blast you are to be around,
and it’ll make him itch for more time to spend with you.
Say hi in the hallway
By communicating outside of your normal chatting grounds,
you’ll be building the bridge to a more significant relationship. This doesn’t
just apply to classroom cuties either! The family friend’s son who works at grocery
store? Don’t wait until you see him at the next holiday party, go through his
checkout line and ask him what’s up. He’ll love the surprise of seeing you in
an unexpected place, and will admire your confident attitude when you approach
him.
Ask him to hang out
This tip may not be for every chica, but we encourage you to
step out of your comfort zone and try it out. Maybe he doesn’t know you’re
available, or maybe he’s too freaked out to make the first move. Take the
pressure off the both of you by asking him to do something fun and casual. Is
there a movie you’ve both been saying you want to see? Ask him if he wants to
go together! Does he tease you about your lack of lay-up skills in gym class?
Challenge him to some one-on-one over the weekend.
Be yourself
You may be tired of hearing it, but it’s definitely one of
our biggest tips for snagging a guy. Guys are drawn to real girls, not the ones
who pretend to like the same bands and watch the same TV shows. You don’t have
to be just like him, or just like girls he’s dated before. When you let your
crush see the real you, he’ll be attracted to your unique qualities and your
willingness to be yourself. Having different interests gives you something to
talk about, and hey, opposites attract!
What do you say (or do) to reel a guy in? What tip will you
try first? Blog about it, babes.
BY KATIE LEMON ON 11/21/2012 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN guys, dating advice, GL's best guy advice, how to get a BF, how to flirt, crush crash course, In the mag, Dec/Jan 2013