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Help! My BGF has a serious medical condition

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My guy friend was just diagnosed with Crohn’s disease. I don’t know how to act around him because he has changed so much. He is very weird and alone now. When I text him, he doesn't answer. I’m worried. Is he OK?

Bill: Since fitting in is such a big part of being a teen, having a disease can be really tough. It’s great that you’re trying to stay connected. Maybe he’s worried that he might not be accepted, so he’s bringing the rejection on himself. Just treat him the way you always have, and ask your friends to do the same.

Dave: Your friend’s life has been turned upside down. While acknowledging the changes and giving him support are helpful, being consistent and just being his friend will go a long way in helping him out. When he wants to be alone, give him that space—but let him know you’re there for him if he needs you.

BY BILL AND DAVE ON 11/26/2012 10:00:00 AM

Give him time, once his body adjusts to the medication he will go into periods of remission. Doctors have spent years trying to figure out my digestive issues and really do not know anything yet. They thought it was Chron's disease so obviously I know what he is going through. It's a lot to take in. Now he will have to get colonoscopys (the prep is absolutely horrible) every so often. This is something that older adults deal with and it's upseting for us kids that have issues to know that we are going to be placed in this category. The pain is unbearable sometimes, he will probably miss school more often, and will most likely need a 504 plan to make things a little easier. All that is enough to make someone act way out of the ordinary. He will slowly come back once he begins to accept the fact that this diagnosis is always going to be a part of him and there isn't much to do but live life the way he wants to no matter what. Take all of this into consideration and be as nice as possible

by mkmnj on 11/27/2012 4:24:57 PM

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I have a bit of a problem. Lately I've developed very poor self esteem. I try to eat as little as possible even though I know it's wrong, and whenever I do eat I feel incredibly guilty. I'm never happy with the way I look anymore. I constantly doubt my self in terms of intellegence even though I have the highest marks in my whole grade and I won a scholarship last year! How can I stop seeing myself in such a negative light? Thanks

Hey babe-

It's normal for girls to become their own toughest critic and the mirror is so distorting that it's hard to differentiate between what's really there and what your mind is tricking you into believing. Take a deep breath. When I'm feeling down about myself I make a list of goals I'm working toward. This helps me come back to earth. Then, I think of all of the things I've already accomplished. It's okay to be proud of yourself! Try and make a mental list of all the things you love about your life and yourself. Take baby steps toward loving what you see-- it may not happen over night, but if you make a conscious effort to love yourself in your entirety, you will find that you are not alone in the way that you feel. You should never eat as little as possible. Make sure to eat three meals a day and work toward eating healthy. It will make you feel more energetic and might even brighten your mood! No one is ever happy with themselves 100% of the time, but it's so easy to love yourself when you make an effort to remind yourself of all the amazing things you are capable of.

If you're ever feeling sad about the way you look, or your tempted to skip a meal, confide in a close friend. Talking about things may help you to see it in a different light, and being around people that care for you will help you stay away from destructive habits. xoxo

alexis g.

by RockMusicFanatic on 11/27/2012 9:22:22 AM

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 15 months. We have a very strong relationship and it's going very well. My best friend and I have only been as close as we are for about half a year. My bff is very religious and has really strong beliefs about doing the right things and stuff. My bf is not religious and does not have beliefs as strong as hers. I'm kind of in the middle. Every time my bff and I talk, if we end up talking about my bf, she hints that she doesn't think he's good for me. When I ask her to elaborate, she tells me she doesnt see us being together for much longer because we're so different. I have talked to my bf about this and he is afraid that she will eventually convince me to break up with him. I just don't like the fact that my best friend doesn't like him. I don't know what to do, because both of them are very important to me and pretty much the only people I have to talk to.

Hey girl, tell them both this the next time they bring it up, particularly your friend. Tell her that she's important to you but your boyfriend is, too and you wish she'd be more supportive of the relationship because you don't see it ending anytime soon. Try to get them together more so they get to know each other (and don't bring up religion when you do). It sounds like your friend's opinion is founded on her own religious beliefs rather than anything he's specifically done. Give her a chance to warm up to him and maybe you'll get her endorsement after all.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

by erinthemaster on 11/26/2012 8:32:34 PM

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I've been worried about my weight lately. I don't look or seem fat, but I'm 12, 5"1 and weigh 111 pounds!!! and I think I seem chubbier then I was before! I eat a lot because I get hungry a lot, and I'm really scared of getting fat! How do I stop getting hungry? Or, if I can't stop myself from getting hungry, how do I ignore my hunger?? I've eaten less today, how do I keep it up??

Hey girl, first of all, your weight is fine for your height. If you want to control your appetite, however, try opting for healthier snacks. If you're starved, for example, go for an apple rather than chips. Not only is it healthier, but it's more filling! Don't feel you have to starve yourself (you shouldn't; your bod is growing): opt for better quality products (healthier food), not just lowering quantity.

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