You’ve
had a crush on that cutie from your math class for weeks, and you really want
to ask him to go out with you. But what’s the best way to do it? Never fear,
ladies!
GL has all the tips you need to ask your crush out.
Get to
know him as friends and set up a study date.
If you’ve
had a crush on a guy for a while but have never held a conversation, there’s no
need to ask him out ASAP. Relationships are strengthened when you feel
comfortable with the other person, so try getting to know your crush as friends
before you make a move. Talk to him after class or at lunch, and get to know
who he is and what he likes. If he maintains eye contact during your convos and
engages in genuine conversation with you, those could be signs he’s interested
in being more than friends!
Becoming
friends is also a great transition into asking your crush to study together
with you or do a group project together, which is less intimidating than asking
him on, say, a dinner date, but it still gets you some quality one-on-one time.
Ask for
help with a gift for the guy in your life.
Whether
you need a birthday present for your dad, uncle, cousin or little bro, asking
your crush to help you pick out a gift is the perfect way to hang out with your
crush without being too awkward. Tell him that you want a male opinion on the
gift and that you would really appreciate his help. He’ll think it’s sweet that
you’re doing stuff for your fam, and you’ll get to spend an awesome day of
shopping together.
Show your
support.
If your
crush is on the school basketball team or a member of the science club, show
him you care by joining the crowd at his next event. Whether or not his team
wins, dole out the congrats afterward and tell him how great he was. If his team
won, offer to buy him ice cream after the game to celebrate for a cute, instant
date idea! If his team lost, you can still offer the ice cream as a
consolation.
Dance with him at your next school dance.
School
dances are perfect, because they give you the chance to tell your crush how you
feel with your friends still nearby. When the DJ plays a slow song, find your
crush and ask him to dance with you. If he says no, you can shrug it off (his
loss!) and be goofy with your friends. It’s a win-win!
Ask him what
he did the previous weekend—then suggest something to do something similar.
When your
crush shows up at school on Monday, start a casual conversation about what you
did the last few days. If he played video games with his friends, mention that
you’ve wanted to rent that new Wii game and ask if he wants to play it with you
that weekend. If he went to a cool new pizza place, suggest the two of you try
your favorite restaurant. He’ll love that you’re interested in what he likes,
and you can tailor your suggestions so that both of you will have fun.
Ask him
on a group date.
If the
thought of being alone on a date freaks ya out (or if Mom and Dad won’t let you
date just yet), ask your crush and his friends to hang out with you and your
girls. You could do something like go bowling or ice skating in a group—it
takes the pressure off of you having to make conversation with him alone all
night, but you can also get away from the group a bit to talk to your crush.
Drop a (super
obvious!) hint.
If you
really can’t work up the nerve to ask out your crush, you could always act
extra flirty around him and see if he takes the bait. Say there’s a new movie
out that you’ve been dying to see or a new restaurant in town you want to try—if
he’s into you, he’ll probably ask if you want to go together!
Just do
it!
Even
though it can be totally nerve-wracking to start a convo with your crush, let
alone to ask him out, the reality is that he’s probably just as nervous as you
are. Ask him out in person so he has a chance to properly respond (texting will
only cause ya a lot of unnecessary stress!), and let him know that you still
want to be friends no matter what his answer is.
Now that
you have these tips, sweeties, don’t be afraid to go ahead and talk to your
crush, and maybe even ask him out. The worst that can happen is that he says
no. In that case, you deserve someone who realizes how awesome you are, and
there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Good luck, girlies!
BY MEGHAN DEMARIA ON 1/11/2013 1:00:00 PM
POSTED IN valentine's day, guys, dating advice, GL's best guy advice, how to get a BF, how to flirt, crush crash course, guy friend Q & A, get his attention now, In the mag, Feb/March 2013