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For a while, I felt like I had everything anyone could ever want: awesome friends, no pimples (yay!) and a great family. Then everything changed. My parents got divorced, my dag began to ignore me, and my mom got cancer and is in the hospital. She says that it’s her medication that’s making her hair fall out. I don’t want to talk to anyone about it, not even my best friends. I’m so sad.

 

 

Dear Can’t Take It,

I’m not surprised you’re upset. It’s hard when someone you love is in the hospital, and I’m sure your mom doesn’t like being sick either. She’d rather be there for you and be strong for you. That said, try to accept your sadness (it’s normal under these circumstances) and tell her you’re worried and that you love her.

 

You’re mom’s hair is probably falling out because of chemotherapy, but often chemo can make all the difference. Confide in a relative or a teacher you can trust, and don’t shut out your closest friends. You don’t have to spill anything you’re not comfortable with, but letting others in on how you’re feeling will be freeing. Promise. And can you get a hold of your dad and let him know that you need and want him in your life? I hope your family gets better news soon.
 
 

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BY CAROL WESTON ON 1/25/2013 12:00:00 AM

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I have liked the same guy for about 4 years and i've known him since i was about 7..... I have considered telling him how i feel but i'm just really afraid because of how things turned out for me last time i told a guy how i felt. But now i think he may actually like me. I'm just really scared i will lose his friendship. How do you tell a guy that you like him when you have known him for 7 years? My friends tell me to wait for him to tell me but i have waited for 4 years! I think he is too shy, he has tried twice before but he got scared. I'm tried of waiting but is it worth the risk?

 

hey! I don't think so. If you think it would affect your friendship, you shouldn't risk it. But if you think he's mature enough to know how you feel and still be your friend even if he doesn't feel the same way, then you should absolutely tell him. 


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I never really asked personally for advice because I figured I didnt need it. But now I do. Im 13 and a couple of weeks ago I walked in on my 16-year-old soster and her boyfriend doing 'it.' I got over it, but now it turns out shes pregnant. Its worse for her than it is for me but I dont know how to deal. Im kind of ashamed of her, is that okay? I feel sorry for her but at the same time I dont. I dont know whether I should make a big deal about it or not. Teen pregnancy sucks but she didnt do it safely and this is the price. Any advice?

 

Hey sleepinginblack, this is a lesson for you too girly. Never rush into anything physical if you're not ready and always use protection. I can understand why you feel that way about your sister. Things happen, but that doesn't mean she isn't the same sister you always had. As long as your sister and her boyfriend are good parents, they should be okay. Hope this helps! Xoxo


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by sinkinginblack on 2/1/2013 5:57:36 PM

 
 

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I have this pretty good guy friend. I've always thought of him as a friend but then i started having dreams about him.... like every single night.... and everyone else thinks he's kinda weird cuz he likes one direction but i think he's rlly sweet..... does it matter what everyone else thinks?

Hey girlie,

I don't think it matters what everyone thinks, especially if it's just about his music taste! If you like spending time with him and he is nice to you, that's all that matters Smile

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by ColoredRain541 on 1/31/2013 6:25:10 PM

 
 



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I found out a few weeks ago that my best friend had gotten her first boyfriend and had kept it secret from ME!! We had a fight and i forgave her but now something else is happening and she seems even sadder and i want to help but she won't tell me whats wrong! she says talking about it will just make her feel worse and she doesn't want to. I just feel rlly hurt that she won't tell me. She also says i havent been there for her lately. I can't be there for her if she doesn't tell me whats wrong! Do i have a right to be angry with her? thanks so much!

 

 

Hey Girl, that is frustrating. Supporting her doesn't always mean you have to give her advice about what's bothering her. Just chatting about something like school or boys can be really supportive.

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In the beginning of my school year, I started out amazing. Good grades, I listend during class, I did my homework and I was nice to people and I had great goals. Now it's visversa. I'm horrible in my classes and I feel really stupid in math, science and social studies. My grades use to be A and B's but I fear it's A, B, C and D's. I sleep during class and I don't go my homework - i copy it from someone. I'm mean to people and rude at times. All the goals I had - I don't want. I'm rude to my teachers. I always waste time instead of doing my homework. Please help me!!
Also - i don't mean to bother but during the summer my older brother was here and he was always making me angry. I use to scream silently untonmy pillow, I use to shut the door and cry or just be angry. I started cracking my head. (Side to side.) And my inner throat. Which looks like I'm twiching. It cracks my head and thorat - it feels good but I get annoyed more. I have temper issues. Please help me!!!!

Hey girl, it's good that you're acknowledging that you're having problems at school.  If you're worried about your grades, speak with your teachers.  Tell them that you feel like you're not doing well and you want to improve.  Ask their advice about how to do better in their classes.  Make some new, manageable goals about school and strive for them.  You can do it!  If you think you might have anger issues, try talking with your school guidance counselor.  Tell them how you've been feeling.  Also, talk with your parents or an adult you trust.  They'll be able to help you come up with ways to get your anger under control and help you start doing well in school again.  Good luck!  


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