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Why can't my BF be more romantic--like my BGF?


 
One of my close guy friends is going out with my BFF. I like this guy a lot as a friend but, I admit, I am jealous of their relationship. They are going to a movie next week, and they already went out to dinner once. I have a boyfriend, but we never go on dates. I am worried I’m losing two great friends.

 

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A little jealousy is perfectly natural. But a lot of jealousy can poison friendships. Take a deep breath, and try to be happy for them. And since you and your boyfriend don’t go out enough, why not suggest a double date? If you feel you need some one-on-one time with any of them, it’s OK to confess your feelings. But next time you get hung up about any of this, remember that time might change this relationship anyway. So do your best to stay friends with everyone.
 
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MODMODMOD (:My BGF is like my brother, and I'm dating his friend (also my friend). My BGF really cares about
me, and when he says hi to me he'll squeeze my hand or put his arm around me. He's dating my girl friend, and I know for sure he doesn't like me. Do you think
his affection makes my boyfriend uncomfortable ? Thank you Smile

 

There is no way of really knowing unless you ask your boyfriend yourself. Also, if he hasn't said anything and doesn't look upset, most likely he understands that you guys are just friends. 

mailyse f.

by kenzi143 on 3/4/2013 4:16:26 PM

 
 

MOD MOD! ok, this is something I really need help with, so any advice is great. I moved here 5 months ago. I don't have very much friends, my closest friend here is a guy. we talk 24/7 and are pretty much inseperable. I love him. in every sense of the way. I love him like a best friend, I love him like a brother,and I love love him, like, in that way. he flirts with me all the time and EVERYBODY is always telling us to stop flirting. we can't look at eachother without smiling ear to ear. and I know for a fact that the feeling is mutual. I even have half the school telling us so. seriously. I tell him everthing, he tells me everthing. the thing is is when I first got here I asked him out. but for some reason he said no. and I've tried to talk myself out of liking him but its impossible. I even got advice from mod! it doesn't work!so my question is: what should I do from here on? do I ask him out again? do I aimlessly flirt? I just don't know wat the best thing is to do. thnksforhelp

Hey girlie,

You could ask him out again, or maybe since you're so close, you could ask him why he said no to you before. Even if he likes you, he might not be ready for a relationship right now or want to focus on school. Talking to him will give you a better sense of what you should do and will answer a lot of your questions!

Meghan D.

by lalalagurl on 3/1/2013 11:46:42 PM

 
 

Maybe we can get their attention by making slight suggestions or hints about being romantic or what we like and want to do. Instead of mentioning about being with friends, maybe make suggestions about being alone with each other. Does anyone think that some guys ever get resentful about our hints?

by fashionqn on 3/1/2013 10:33:36 PM

 
 

My best guy friend and I are always laughing and our other friends think we are flirting but we arent. We are the best of friends but I do not want to stop bring friends just because they are jealous. Im tierd of people say that we are flirting and I am cheatin on my bf with him what should I do ???

by that_girl_ on 2/28/2013 7:17:42 PM

 
 





hey! You have to either tell her to stop repeating what you're saying to her, or stop telling her things you don't want repeated. good luck, girl!  


Helen S.

by eaglette on 2/28/2013 5:32:57 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD
I feel really sad and Lonely I'm 15 I'll be 16 in august
I'm also homeschooled Iv been thinking about boys a lot I really do want a boyfriend
It makes me really sad because all my other sibs have someone two of my sisters are getting engaged my one sis is getting married next may my other sister has her GF
My brother has his GF and I'm all alone it really makes me sad
I really do want a boyfriend I want someone I can talk to and cuddle with
and tell me I'm beautiful but I don't want a boyfriend for two weeks and that's it I know
some girls my age only go out with a guy for like a week but I don't wanna do that
how can I not feel this way? please help

by redvelvetluv on 2/27/2013 11:38:24 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!
So I REALLY like this guy. Well, we went out and we had to break up because I can't date and I felt bad about going behind my Mum's back. Well, now I think he likes my BFF.. WHAT SHOULD I DO, because I still like him ALOT!! Please help me!!

by kkheartspink on 2/27/2013 10:45:56 PM

 
 

MOD
My bgf and I are close to dating and my best friend is very supportive. But she tends to get very jelious of me because she likes popular guys who dont give her the time of day for 6 years. Half the time, she goes to thier games and popular poeple make fun of her but she still likes those guys. It pains me to see her in this cycle. How can I explain it to her nicely that she should move on and that the guys dont like her and if they did, everyone would try to ruin it? She deserves sooo much better then them. Help please, and thank you

by Quietfriend1415 on 2/27/2013 10:22:34 PM

 
 

I think some boys need a push. I dont think being romantic comes naturally to them as it does to us. I cant tell you how many times I hear from friends, I wish he would kiss me but hasnt. I would try to give him hints that you want to get more romantic with him, it could scare him but it could start to make him think and want to be romantic with you.

Guys mainly watch sports stuff and we read and think about romance and relationships, I think its just how we are.

by fashionqn on 2/27/2013 10:13:55 PM

 
 

My bgf and I are close to dating and my best friend is very supportive. But she tends to get very jelious of me because she likes popular guys who dont give her the time of day for 6 years. Half the time, she goes to thier games and popular poeple make fun of her but she still likes those guys. It pains me to see her in this cycle. How can I explain it to her nicely that she should move on and that the guys dont like her and if they did, everyone would try to ruin it? She deserves sooo much better then them. Help please, and thank you

by Quietfriend1415 on 2/27/2013 10:09:16 PM

 
 

My bgf and I are close to dating and my best friend is very supportive. But she tends to get very jelious of me because she likes popular guys who dont give her the time of day. Half the time, she goes to thier games and popular poeple make fun of her but she still likes those guys. It pains me to see her in this cycle. How can I explain it to her nicely that she should move on and that the guys dont like her and if they did, everyone would try to ruin it? She deserves sooo much better then them. Help please, and thank you

by Quietfriend1415 on 2/27/2013 10:04:32 PM

 
 

My bgf and I are close to dating and my best friend is very supportive. But she tends to get very jelious of me because she likes popular guys who dont give her the time of day. Half the time, she goes to thier games and popular poeple make fun of her but she still likes those guys. It pains me to see her in this cycle. How can I explain it to her nicely that she should move on and that the guys dont like her and if they did, everyone would try to ruin it? She deserves sooo much better then them. Help please, and thank you

by Quietfriend1415 on 2/27/2013 10:00:38 PM

 
 

Hey gals, if you have any type of boy problems that need help with come stop by the club called Legit Boy Advice. You can actually get real answers from real boys! I have 5 brothers...Yes..5! (nuts, I know!) I can personally ask them questions you have. I am POSITIVE I have each age group you have questions for! If you want a girls perspective I have myself and other members who would love to help you out! Hope you'll join! Smile

by Chloe<3 on 2/27/2013 8:36:37 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD
I won the Gia and Dani bag from the December giveaway, but have yet to receive it. I personally emailed Brittany on the 16th yet she has not replied. What should I do now.

 

Hey girlie, e-mail her again. She'll have the details on where your bag is and how you can get it. 


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by onyinyechi5166 on 2/27/2013 6:03:26 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD What does it mean when a guy winks at you?? He also walks with me with his arm around me and always hugs me. Does he like me?

 

hey girl! It sounds like he's interested. There's no way for me to know for sure, but those are all very good signs Smile

xoxo 


Katie L.

by zebranista<3 on 2/27/2013 4:32:19 PM

 
 



Mod mod mod
Thanks for answering my questions (: Yeah, I think it might be time to let go, but I would love to know if he likes me before I forget him. What if he flirts with me tomorrow? What do I say? Do I just tell him the truth that I don't get why he gets flirty one day, and then ignores me the next? Thanks (:

 

hey girl!

no prob Smile I think it'd be really cool and mature of you to open up communication like that and straight up ask him. No reason to be coy and play games, so good for you!

xoxo 


Katie L.

by isabellec on 2/27/2013 3:42:41 PM

 
 



Mod mod mod
My crush likes to "flirt" with me, or I thought he liked to. It's like he acts flirtatious with me one day, and then ignores me the next. His girl friend (two separate words) came back to karate yesterday, and he pretended I didn't exist. He was joking around with her and his friends. She's like 1 or 2 years older than him. He seemed friendly with her, not flirtatious. But he still didn't say anything to me. Usually when he sees me, he plays with my hair or does something to get my attention. He even talks to my mom. He didn't say anything to her either. Should I just forget him? I'm not sure if he likes me or if he's just "bored" and is looking for a girl to flirt with. I'm kind of disgusted with him. What do I say to him tomorrow, or do I say anything at all? Thanks

 

Hey girl! It sure is annoying when guys play hot and cold. if he's not consistently showing interest, it may be safe to say he doesn't have a major crush. That doesn't mean he's not interested, but if he's not paying you attention consistently, I think it may be time to forget him. It's up to you!

xoxo 


Katie L.

by isabellec on 2/27/2013 12:03:26 PM

 
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