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A boy asked me to our spring dance, and he’s sweet but not that attractive. I said no because I just don’t think of him in that way. Does saying no to him make me shallow? Also, there’s a boy I’m afraid to ask to the dance because I’m afraid of rejection. Should I ask him?

 

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If you’d written to say that you like only hot guys and would never talk to anyone who isn’t insanely popular, then yep, I’d call you shallow. But it’s not shallow to decline an invitation to a dance from someone you don’t want to dance with—especially if you’re polite about it. (Note:  “No, but thank you for asking,” beats “Ugh! In your dreams.”) As for risking rejection yourself, instead of boldly asking him to the dance, why not smile and flirt and get some sparks going? You might also try the oblique, “Are you going to Spring Fling?” rather than the point-blank, “Want to go to Spring Fling?”
 
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Youre not shallow, you may be picky but whats wrong with that? I would go to the dance with the guy you want to go with and if is a hottie you are waiting for than go with the hottie. I would want to go with an attractive guy, we all like attractive guys.

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by fashionqn on 4/1/2013 5:59:52 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!
I just got asked to the prom by a senior and I am a freshman. I know he is a really sweet person, and has the same values as I do ect. However I am not all that attracted to him in that way. Plus I'm not even allowed to date until I'm 16! My parents told me it was okay to go with him because they trust that he is a good person.I didn't want him to be embarrassed because he's very shy and doesn't ask a lot of girls. So I said yes, only if we went as friends and as a group. He said that it was perfectly okay. (even though I know he likes me more than as a friend.) Prom is May 4th and I am sooo nervous!! I've never said yes to a guy before, and the fact that he's a senior makes it even harder! PLEASE HELPP!! ThanksSmile

 

Hey 06631, no worries. I'm sure you'll have fun, especially if he is as nice as you say he is. Maybe try spending a little more time around him now, so you won't be quite as nervous when it comes time to go to prom. You'll be fine girly! Xoxo Smile Smile Smile  


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by 06631 on 3/29/2013 5:52:11 PM

 
 

haha both my best friend and I were slightly freaked out by the guys who asked us to homecoming, as in we totally didn't see either coming (the guy who asked me is super shy, and the guy that asked her hardly talks to her). the difference was, she freaked out and said no, and I freaked out and said yes... but it was cool. i had a date to homecoming Laughing

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by mesuchrecarpendaes on 3/22/2013 8:14:10 PM

 
 



Mod mod mod!!!!
So the intern I work with is really flirty with me! He is always talking to me and stares at my friends and I when we go by the bookshelves. Plus he is very attentive of who I hang out with, he was Even jealous when my boyfriend came in and started flirting with me (he didn't know he was my bf at the time) plus he also defended me when someone was being a jerk to me. he also helps me with everything. Then he made perfume(weird) but anyway I just told him I would smell it on tuesday(the next time I would see him) but he literally couldn't wait for me to smell it. He even literally ran all the way to his locker to get it. (it smelt awesome btw) so does he like me or am I juat over reacting?

 

Hey Hottie1250, he could like you. These definitely sound like flirty moves. I would wait for a few more clues before saying anything. If he takes it a little too far, you should remind him that you're in a relationship and want to remain friends. Hope this helps! Xoxo Smile 


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by Hottie1250 on 3/22/2013 5:40:34 PM

 
 

She said she just isn't into him that way, so she isn't shallow.

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by awtechnofish on 3/20/2013 8:14:35 PM

 
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