When your BF cheats or your bestie backstabs, we know you’re
just dying to get back at them. Sure, it’s not the right thing to do, but those
jerks totally deserve it! But before you scheme up a blush-worthy scandal or
prep for egging and TP-ing, take a sec to think. Revenge is not as satisfying
as it sounds, and afterwards, you’ll feel just as bad as ya did before. So how
should you deal with the drama? Here are 13 (mess-free) things that are even
better than revenge!
Focusing on yourself
If you’re wrapped up in revenge, you’re focusing on the
wrong thing. Instead of worrying about giving that scumbag a taste of their own
medicine, think about yourself. The most important thing is that you recover
Thinking it through
Emotions can often make your judgment cloudy, so it’s
important to set the passion aside and think this incident through. After a
calm evaluation, you might even realize that the whole shenanigan was no
We know it sounds a little crazy, but anti-revenge is the
best kind! Being super nice and acting 100-percent over it is the way to go.
You’ll psych out your victim and look like the cool, calm, mature gal you are.
Making the most of it
Looking on the bright side can feel impossible, especially
when you can’t even find it. But trust us, there’s always a silver lining. BF
bolted? Hey, this single girl’s now got more time with the besties. BFF
ditched? Use it as an opportunity to reach out and make new friends.
You may feel like you’ve gotta take action right this sec,
but sometimes waiting it out is the solution. Things get better with time, so
sit back, relax, and let your problems mend themselves.
Getting a makeover
Looking good is feeling good, and whoever did ya wrong will
hate to see a new and improved you. Hit up the mall and let the besties make
you over- then let that confidence shine! A new look will lock the drama in the
Learning from it
Give yourself a mini mental quiz about the issue. What
happened, and more importantly, why? Could you have stopped this? Learning from
mistakes, both yours and others’, can lift your mood and actually make the
feelings to work
No matter what you’re feeling right now, you’re feeling it
strongly. Take that all that sad, hurt, angry energy and put it to good use.
Join a gym, learn to tango, whatevs!
with good stuff
Blast that iPod and host a girls’ night in. Doing things you
love to do and surrounding yourself with things you love will heal your
heartbreak and let you kiss those worries goodbye.
Chilling with your
friends and fam
There may have been a mishap, but you’ve still got a
constant crew that cares about ya. Whether it’s your ‘rents, your girls, or
your sibs, turn to your support system for a solution.
Writing it out
Expressing yourself can be a big relief, but you might not
feel comfy dishing the deets to your buds. Grab a pen and dust off that
journal, then let it all out.
Rather than aiming negativity at someone else, aim
positivity at yourself! Buy yourself those jeans, go for an ice cream sundae,
spend an hour in a warm bubble bath. Do whatever you can to make yourself
Letting it go
If you take revenge, it means you’re still clinging to the
past. Instead, look forward and put all your grudges to rest. Once you
completely let go, you’ll finally feel free from all that stress and drama.
BY JULIE HARANS ON 7/6/2013 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN bad friend, 411 on fighting with friends, dealing with jealousy, can I trust my friend