No one likes a break up, no matter which side you’re on. All of the fighting and hurt feelings cause drama for more than just the two of you. Make it easier on everyone around you and use some of our tips for how to play nice, even when it seems impossible.
If you want to stay friends without getting attached again…
Take it slow, chica. It’s almost impossible to go from
dating someone to thinking of them only as a friend in a couple of days. If ya
wanna stay friends, invite him out when you’re hanging with your crew so you
don’t have to see him one-on-one all the time. After awhile, you two may be
able to chat like ya used to, but keep the late night messages and “thinking of
you” texts to a minimum—they can make you forget why you broke up in the first
If he’s being a jerk, and you’re so over it...
The best thing you can do here is let him vent—he’s probably
just hurting and doesn’t know how to express it. No need to be a doormat. If
he’s spreading rumors or picking on you, ask him to stop and set the record straight.
Just make sure you’re doing it without adding anything nasty to the gossip mill.
Once he realizes it’s not getting a rise out of you, he’ll figure out another
way to deal.
If you two have mutual friends, but didn’t have a mutual
Don’t make your buds pick sides in a messy break up. If you
have the same friend group, pull him aside and agree to a truce: you won’t talk
smack about him to your friends if he promises the same. Both of you will want
to keep your friendships, so even though it may be tough not to roll your eyes
when he’s acting like a total jerk, keeping your friends happy will be worth
If he’s showing off his new GF, and you just broke up a week
It may seem impossible not to start accusing him of cheating
on you, but once you break up, you don’t get a say in who he dates. Keep your
accusations to yourself and be as friendly as ever to his new girlfriend. It
may be tough, but you don’t want him pickin’ fights when you find a new
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BY KATE GERAGHTY ON 9/1/2013 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN guys, dating advice, GL's best guy advice, dealing with a breakup, ex boyfriend Q & A, mean, dealing with gossip, how to move on