When it comes to guys, you never wanna appear too eager. Guys love the challenge of chasing after someone they can’t get so easily. But you gotta be careful not to give him too much of the cold shoulder, or you could risk completely scaring him off. Find the right balance with these dos and don’ts.
Don’t: Make yourself impossible to schedule things with.
Dial down the giddiness when he asks you to hang out. You
don’t wanna seem like you have nothing else to do. But if you actually are
free, and you want to see him—see him! He’ll lose interest if you you’re too unavailable.
Do: Make him wait.
If he’s trying to move things too fast or too soon, let him
know you want to take it slower. Saying no isn’t going to turn him off, but
instead attract him even more to you. He loves what he can’t have.
Don’t: Respond immediately to every text he sends.
If you always reply 30 seconds after he sends a message,
he’ll start to think he has too much power. It will seem like you’re sitting
around, hovering over your phone, just waiting for him to respond. Even if this
is true, he can’t know it!
Do: Take some initiative.
It can be hard for a guy if it’s always up to him to make
the first move. He’ll get the vibe that you’re not that interested in him if he
always has to start convos and introduce plans. Step up and make plans every
now and then, so that he’ll know you’re still plenty interested.
Don’t: Be mean.
Sure, you shouldn’t be all over him, but don’t be cold to
him either. Sometimes when you’re playing hard to get, you might be tempted to
be mean in order to make him think you’re not that interested. But, this can
backfire and leave him thinking you’re rude and he won’t want anything to do
Do: Keep it vague.
Avoid laying everything on the table right away. Leave him
curious about you and wanting to know more. You want to remain interesting, and
by being a li’l secretive, you will.
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BY ALYSON KATZ ON 12/21/2013 11:00:00 AM
POSTED IN guys, dating advice, GL's best guy advice, how to get a BF, how to flirt, crush crash course, playing it cool