I have a BF and BFF, who’s a guy. They both asked me to the first school dance of the year. Of course, I really want to go with my boyfriend—but I don’t want to hurt my bud’s feelings. What should I do?
DAVE: Seems pretty clear cut to me, which in relationship lingo translates to, “Danger! Potential for serious trouble.” If your buddy is truly your buddy, then he should understand your desire to be with your beau on the big night. Explain that to him…delicately. Remember, like serving a nice meal, presentation means everything. Assure him this doesn’t mean you two don’t have a strong friendship. Why not hook him up with one of your friends for a double date? That way, you can all have a good time together. Warning: This plan will only work if he truly sees you as a bud. If he has more in mind, all bets are off.
BILL: First off, your BF is a pretty cool guy if he’s OK with you having a guy BFF. And you’re pretty cool for thinking about your bud’s feelings. Now, if your bud is cool (and he probably is), then he’ll understand why your first priority would be your BF. I’m not saying you should always pick your BF over your friend. But this is one time when you need to acknowledge that your dance card is already full.
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