I'm So Different From My Crush


I have liked this guy for a couple years. He goes to my church and I only see him once a week at church and youth group. I am trying to get the courage to tell him I like him but there are some problems. I'm tall, he's not as tall, I'm big, he's small and we are really good friends. I don't want to ruin that. My friends make fun of me for liking him because of our differences but I try to ignore them. What should I do?


-Many differences


Hey babe,

I can totally relate to you on this sitch when it comes to the height issue. I'm only 5'1 and my boyfriend is 6'0. Our height difference has been made a joke between his and my friends but we never let that get in the way of our relationship. We are both individuals who are similiar in many ways; despite the height gap. I'm also really tiny and he's a big guy. You learn over a period of time to ignore comments and to be very happy with your differences. I do have a few tips that can help you get over feeling awkward!


Remember that your body and his body shouldn't really matter when it comes to a relationship. It's all about personality, fun and open communication. With that said, write down on a sheet of paper all the things that you love about yourself. Then jot down stuff that you really like about your crush. After doing that, you will realize that body image isn't always everything. I'm really short and when i'm with my boyfriend, I sometimes wish I was a giant but he always told me that I am perfect the way you are. We all get these feelings of insecurity when it comes to our height but when you love it yourself, everyone else tends to follow the flow.


Also, tell your friends using " I feel" statements that this is really hurting your feelings and that you would appreciate their support. When you start opening up to them how you truly feel, they'll probably back off. They may even help you both ask each other out. Who knows?


Lastly, I know you are scared about asking your crush out since you guys are good friends but I want you remember this quote my professor tells her students all the time: "Nothing ventured, nothing gained." This means that if you don't take a chance on asking him out. You will never know what if. Try to ask him out to your a friend's bonfire or to a group beach event. Invite him over to group events first and when you both develop a closer friendship, try watching a movie together or go to the pool. These tactics will break the ice and make you and him more comfortable around each other.


It's all up to you if you want to risk your friendship or not. Generally when things go good or bad, ex's do remain good friends with each other after the break up. It's all about open communication between the two parties. I hope these tips help. Good luck snagging your guy!


Hugs,
Sherryn D.

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5/8/2009 7:00:00 AM
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