A month ago, my close friend told me, “I don't want to be friends anymore; I have a new friend.” It broke my heart, but I got over it and made new friends even though I was sad.

Now, my ex-friend got dumped by her friend and wants to be best buds again as if nothing ever happened. What should I do?

It’s easier to have friends than enemies, so it often makes sense to be friendly rather than put up a “Do Not Disturb” sign. But unless this hot-and-cold girl makes it clear that she learned from being fickle, I wouldn’t sign on to being her best bud again.

You’ve proven that you can survive disappointment and make new friends – and that’s great. Let’s just hope she has found out (the hard way) that treating a friend like dirt can backfire. Can you two hang out? Sure. Should you re-invest big-time in someone who hurt you without an apology? Probably not.

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6/13/2009 7:00:00 AM