DEAR CAROL: Pushing to be Popular

At the beginning of school, I decided I wanted to be "cool." I was hoping to make some popular friends. Finally, this girl who I thought was popular became friends with me and I was really happy. 


Then she started getting mad at me for no reason, calling me names, etc. I want to end our so-called friendship and I need to know how to do it.


I'm afraid that if I'm too harsh, she'll hate me forever.

--Frustrated

Dear Frustrated: 

It seems that you've realized it's better to have a true friend than a false friend-or a popular acquaintance.  But now, rather than dump the girl and have an enemy, you're better off not being obvious about your change of heart. 


Sit with other girls at lunch and make after school plans with others, too. Join a sport or chorus or the school newspaper or any activity that will keep you involved with different kids.  If she confronts you, you can say, "I don't want to fight," or "Of course I have other friends and so do you."


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8/1/2009 7:00:00 AM
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