This year is my last year in middle school. I want to make it a good year, so please help! When I am at school I am really quiet and never feel like myself. As a result I only have a few good friends. But when I am with my family I am myself.

I have tried my best to be as outgoing as possible at school and not worry too much about what people think, but I still haven’t gotten anywhere yet! I've been like this all my life. How do I become less self-conscious and more outgoing and do you have any tips about making more friends?

Hey babe, this is a totally normal thing that a lot of girls deal with. Some people are just naturally more shy and reserved than others, especially in new situations or around a big group of people. It's great that you realize it and want to do something about it!

Confidence really is key. Relax! People notice when someone is comfortable and relaxed so don't try too hard when making friends - just be yourself. Try to find a friendly face in one of your classes and just start chatting. Ask how she (or he!) thinks the class will be or what she's heard about the teacher. Just start with small talk and the convo will keep flowing.

Wanna branch out? Make a list of things that you like about yourself—like hobbies, talents, etc. and take a look at some sports and clubs that you could join at school or maybe an acting class that you could sign up for. This way you’ll make tons of new pals with the same interests as you…so you’ll have plenty to talk about.

The best thing about making new friends, even just one, is that your new friend probably has her own group of friends that you'll also get to meet so don't worry about making lots of friends at once. Just making one here and there will def increase your social potential!

Check out these tried-and-true top 10 ways to make a new bud, RIGHT HERE.

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9/7/2009 7:00:00 AM