DEAR CAROL: Back Together With My Old Bestie?

Dear Carol,

A month ago, my close friend told me, “I don't want to be friends anymore; I have a new friend.” It broke my heart, but I got over it and made new friends even though I was sad.

Now, my ex-friend got dumped by her friend and wants to be best buds again as if nothing ever happened. What should I do?

-Not Sure

Dear Not Sure,

It’s easier to have friends than enemies, so it often makes sense to be friendly rather than put up a “Do Not Disturb” sign. But unless this hot-and-cold girl makes it clear that she learned from being fickle, I wouldn’t sign on to being her best bud again.

You’ve proven that you can survive disappointment and make new friends—and that’s great. Let’s just hope she has found out (the hard way) that treating a friend like dirt can backfire. Can you two hang out? Sure. Should you re-invest big-time in someone who hurt you without an apology? Probably not.

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10/3/2009 7:00:00 AM