For the past year, my dad and my mom have been going through this really rough break-up and it seems like they might split up. My mom, my sister and I all think my dad is mentally ill because he keeps on saying and doing terrible things, like threatening to kill himself. Then, he goes back to being a really good dad who I have so much fun with.  

You said you can’t stop thinking about how he'll be the fun dad that he once was. Try not to think about that too much and instead think about all the fun times you did have. People change, so sometimes we have to adjust to new behaviors and attitudes. If you only think about your dad in a negative way, you might start to feel hateful toward him. You just need to remind yourself that he’s still your father and you can still have a good time with him. Add a reminder of the fun stuff you used to do in your note. Tell you pops that you'd love to go back to having great times like that. Maybe even suggest some ways to get back to hanging with dear ol' dad. Weekly brunch dates, anyone?

by Liz L. | 2/1/2016