Stuck between fighting friends

There is always a problem between my friends. They are always fighting! Even though I like everyone, they expect me to pick a side. They fight over really stupid things. Like, these two groups of people have been fighting for over two years now, and I'm not even sure what they are even fighting about anymore.


They always try to make something up so they can be mad at each other. What should I do? Should I say something? If I should, how do I say it?


Hey babe, it can be totally annoying when groups are butting heads and wanting you to pick a side! It seems like you've got a good grasp on the sitch though, and know to stay as neutral as possible.


Boredom=drama!

Some people like to cause drama just 'cause they're bored. Really. It sounds a little ridiculous, but like you said, they prob don't even know what they're even fighting about anymore! Maybe they do it to feel better about themselves by saying stuff to put other people down, or maybe a fight really did start over some sort of argument or misunderstanding and has just escalated into a big deal—either way, it's most likely nothing that you should spend your time worrying about.


Patch things up!

Enjoy the time hanging out with your pals and if someone happens to mention a fight or says something mean about anyone else, ask her what happened between them to make her feel that way. Maybe you could say something like, "Well, since it's been so long I'm sure you guys could start over." Encourage her to talk to you about what happened so you can try to get her to see that is probably isn't that big of a deal. If she starts to get annoyed by you asking, just say that you're trying to understand her side, that's all.


The best thing to remember, though is to stay out of it as much as possible. If someone brings up a fight, then sure, ask about it, but don't push the subject too much or you might get caught in the middle...which would be a definite lose-lose situation any way ya look at it!


Here are some other great tips you should check out here this article about being Stuck in the Middle.


-Katie S.

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11/18/2009 7:00:00 AM
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