DEAR CAROL: My Crush Asked My Friend Out

My friend and I like the same guy, and he asked her out. My friend doesn’t want to go out with him because she doesn’t want to hurt me.

I told her to go ahead, but I secretly don’t want them to date.

Dear Love Triangle,

You did the nice and noble thing, and if the situation were reversed, you’d want your friend to encourage you. Girl friends usually last longer than boyfriends, so take a deep breath and smile at other guys. If you had thrown a fit and she’d turned the boy down, all three of you would feel worse.

Congratulate yourself on being a caring friend, and tell her, “I admit I’m a little jealous, but I’m happy for you and care about our friendship so go for it. Just don’t tell me every single little detail, OK?”

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