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I’ve had a crush on this guy for months. We see each other almost every day and hold hands often. We have lunch, see movies and do practically everything together! I call him, and he’s at my house in like a minute.

So, the other day I asked him who his best friend is and he said I am. I was extremely flattered…but also confused.

I thought he liked me as a GF. What’s up?

BILL: Isn’t man’s best friend supposed to be a dog? But you don’t hold hands with your pet so, obviously, this guy is serious about you. Maybe he’s moved past the stage of shyly professing attraction to the much higher stage of professing affection. Consider it a compliment. Pat him on the head and say, “Good boy!”

DAVE: It sounds as though you get to do all the cool BF/GF stuff, and your guy is there for you in a shake. So big deal if he’s having a little difficulty defining things. Small price to pay for bliss. Besides, lots of guys consider their GFs to also be their BFFs. So there.

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I have been liking this guy for a long time now. I never even talk to the guy. The problem is he isn't in any of my classes, he's the "cool" guy, and he's always with his friends. So how can I make a first inpression?

spoiled_rotten7 on 11/19/2009 12:01:22 AM

MOD So there's this guy I really like and his friend is dating my sis, so he comes over a lot but he doesn't always stay. Well during the summer we got to be really close friends and i started liking him and one day i got a bf and he started flirting with me majorly and then he stopped once we broke up. Well my sis and her boyfriend are constantly hooking him up with girls who break his heart and I'd be perfect for him. i confronted him about how I felt and he said he liked me too but he liked three other girls the same way. He said he could see us going out one day. What should i do?

Hey girl! Sounds like you just have to be patient! Try talking to him more and getting to know him. Don't be afraid to flirt it up a little either! Be confident, chick!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

sweetNsour on 11/17/2009 7:39:26 PM

I'm probably like the most non-normal person that ever was. I don't have a crush on anybody, I don't even have an interest in boys, but I feel like I'm missing something. I feel like I'm being left out of something important, but I'm not sure. Please help!

pikacutie25 on 11/16/2009 10:02:04 PM

my ex-bf lied to me about y we broke up and he wnats to be friends. he dumped me cuz he liked another girl better and didnt want to ruin his chances with her. h said it was because his parents found out nad they dont want him dating. i feel like i should hate him but i dont. what should i do?

declaration on 11/16/2009 8:54:07 PM

i like a guy, who likes me back. we act like were bf and gf, but i dont know if hes ready to be bf and gf. i dont know what to do, and i dont want to ask him out and feel stupid.

pianolover4ever on 11/13/2009 10:59:24 PM

MOD!!!!!! MOD!!!!! MOD!!!!!
I know you've probably heard this a million times..but I like one of my guy friends, Kessler. He's really nice and sweet and everything I could ever want in a guy. But he's done some bad things in the past. Not just him..his parents also. He only did one thing that wasnt that bad and his parents have been in jail. Everyone hates him because of what he just did. No one thinks he's good and before he did that they thought he was bad just because of his parents. He's really not that bad of a guy...I just wish he would notice me a little bit more. What do I do about people understanding who he really is and also what do I do about him noticing me???

Hey girl! You should try to talk to him, you could talk to him about school or his fave music. You might want to make sure that he is an ok guy, you shouldn't judge him based on his past.

Eryn G.

skittle97 on 11/10/2009 4:02:29 PM

MOD MOD MOD! SHOULD I GO OUT WITH SOMEONE EVEN THOUGH MY FRIEND ALREADY LIKES HIM? IF SO, SHOULD I TEXT IT TO HIM OR WOULD IT LOOK TOO DESPERATE?

Hey chica, before agreeing to go out with him, ask your friend if they'll be okay with it. The last thing you want have is to have a boy ruin your friendship. I think it would be best if you told them face to face versus texting because that's a very special thing to tell someone.

Lynae P.

xheart4shoppingx on 11/8/2009 3:44:26 PM

MOD* MOD* MOD*
There is this guy that I like and he's a grade older so the only time I see him is at lunch and on the bus. It's hard to talk to him becuase he's quiet and shy and plus he knows I like him. So how should I talk to him???

He may not know you like him, and you may assume he knows. Guys are usually terrible with hints! (which could be good or bad!) Try talking about something you know you both have in common, like a sport you both like, a band you both listen to, or a teacher you both have. If he had a teacher you have this year you could ask him for some tips! Good luck!

Megan R.

lipgloss1077 on 11/7/2009 10:45:03 AM

MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!
I WENT OUT WITH THIS GUY IN 2ND GRADE BUT IT REALLY DIDNT MEAN ANYTHING.WE JUST WAVED "HI" IN THE HALLWAY AND STUFF. BUT MY SISTER TOLD ME TO BRAK UP WITH HIM. BUT NOW I'M IN 5TH GRADE AND I'M GETTING MORE COMFORTABLE WITH HIM. I REALLY LIKE HIM. SHOULD I ASK HIM OUT OR SHOULD I WAIT UNTIL HE ASKS ME OUT?? HELP!!!!!!!!!!
-ESTHER

Go for it girl! I think you shouldn't wait to ask him, and you should take the first step! Be yourself and be brave! Good luck!

Megan R.

xheart4shoppingx on 11/7/2009 9:15:43 AM

Wow!!!!

bunnyboo539 on 11/5/2009 10:46:54 AM

Wow!!!!

bunnyboo539 on 11/5/2009 10:46:22 AM

I really like this guy, but he has a girlfriend and he flirts with me all the time,and he won't tell me who he likes,how do i get it out of him?

starocj on 11/4/2009 3:53:23 PM

ok so I like this boy a lot and I think he likes me how do I get it out of him that he likes me
-starocj

starocj on 11/4/2009 3:49:33 PM

im so confused!! this guy was dating my BFF and when they were togther she asked him who would he date if not her and he said me!! ive' had a huge crush on him for like 3 months. then they brake up and the next day hes with on of my friends! i thought he liked me thought! So im bemuzled!!

atika on 11/1/2009 8:48:46 PM

Theres this gug i like, but im not sure if he likes me back or not. He flirts and all but when one of my friends asked him if he likes me he said no and i wanna tell him how i feel, but im afraid he wont wanna be friends with me any more
(all my friends hang in the same group including
me and him)

Purplehairlover on 10/28/2009 4:40:39 PM

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metsprincess on 10/27/2009 3:30:50 PM

Ok i need some advice, I went out with this dude and it was really great and he talked to me all summer. He said that he wanted to be in a relationship with me, but then, all of sudden, he completely stops and only talks to me when I talk to him. I just don't get it. I really value his friendship so I want us to still be friends. What should I do?

Hey girl! Try talking to him and seeing whats up. You can tell him how important his friendship was and how you miss him as a friend. He could have just gotten shy or scared!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

113737 on 10/25/2009 9:24:28 PM

To those girls who have gone through break-ups, those guys are so not worth your tears. If they broke up with a great girl they are just rotten and missing out on so much! And, lucky you, you don't have to be stuck with an idiot!! Think positively, your are great, it's his loss, def not your's!!!

ILove GL on 10/24/2009 1:01:34 AM

I was at this awesome party at my cousins and then suddenly the party got two times better. this smocken hot guy walks in. He keeps flirting with me. He kept on asking me for my cell num, but i keep on deniying because i already have a BF. Im dieing to know if he really liked me. And how im soposed to get over it.

laurenm1011 on 10/21/2009 10:39:01 PM

OK so this guy was like all good friends with me and everything and he already has a girlfriend and i really like him,he makes me laugh, and my locker is right next to his and he always talks to me ,but i can't go anywhere with him if he already has a girlfriend.HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

m.byrne1995 on 10/17/2009 10:58:01 AM

I think you should ask him out and see what he says. If he says no then get over it and dont let this screw up your friendship. If he says yes then of course he likes you.

vball55551 on 10/16/2009 3:11:10 PM

MOD MOD MOD OKAY so i like this guy and my best guy friend found out and told him. I am not mad it is just he said he doesn't like me cause he doesn't know me. but then i got excited and gave his friend my number to give to him. And he actually called me and was gonna tell me something but the phone cut off. My best friend told me she didn't think he liked me and she really doesn't want me to get hurt. so do you think i should give up with him? or go for it? And have any advice for a girl who is too nervous to talk to her crush? -crushin

Hey Girl,

I totally get why you're nervous! Just be confident and be yourself. If he likes you, he will let you know! In the meantime, hang out with your BFFs! Go the mall or movies, enjoy your weekend!

claudia n.

abby777 on 10/16/2009 11:58:35 AM

MOD!
I have this really hot neighbor, but we don't know each other like at all! We go to different schools and i'm 2 years younger! What can I do to get to know him?? P.S. He's kinda shy

Hey girl, why not try knocking on his door sometime and asking him to go for a walk? You guys live next door. It's no biggie if you want to get to know him.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

xoxocandice97 on 10/15/2009 7:13:09 PM

MOD
I just started highschool and there is this super nice guy in my drawing class that I have a crush on. I am the only freshmen in the class. Me and My bff went to homecoming as friends and He danced with us the whole night.
I was so happy.
Then the next day at school he would not stop talking about her, and I feel very jealous, and that he only danced with her, and I have class with him every single day!
He is also a total flirt, but I still like him, and he treats me super well.
What should I do about him and I,
and
what should I do about my BFF? she's really confident now and is always putting me down

Hey babe,

Talk to your BFF and explain how you feel. If she's a good friend she won't want to keep hurting your feelings. As for your crush, if he's a flirt, this thing with your BFF probably won't last long. Use it as a way to get to know him now and maybe later, when he's done with being flirty, he'll remember you for who you are.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

sandyfur1 on 10/9/2009 7:56:03 PM

I have a problem. Can someone please respond? I like this guy. He flirts with me and i think he likes me. But he also flirts with other girls especially this one girl. I'm not sure if they're just really good friends, though. When he looks into my eyes i feel like he likes me. Can someone please respond ASAP?

ILOVECAPECOD! on 10/9/2009 6:42:51 PM

hi! so theres this guy who i like A LOT and hes been acting in a way that is starting to make me think that he likes me. so like i saw him while his dad was talking to someone on the road in their cars and my mom and i were waiting. well the guy that i liked ( i see him a lot. like when he walks around campus and stuff but i thought he was a little kid becuase hes a lot shorter than me and it looks like he is about ten. and i.m 13. so when we wee waiting in line, im thinking to my self, "okay. its gross to like a 5th grader when i am an 8th grader." but there he is in the passenger seat smiling at me! and i am smiling too and meet eye content until we drive away. but then today, my music teahcer wanted me to play my viola in the high School orchastra for now on. i am doing that every morning befofe school and it turns out that he goes to ot too and that he is an 9th grader!!!! he is only a year older than me!

i really cannot blieve it!

and today he was helping me with the computer and stuff at music bcuz we were sitting next 2 each other. he kept on looking at me while i spoke with our music teahcer and his eyes were smiling and he had this little smile on too. he always stares at me and smiles at me when ever he sees me! does he like me? I WOULD REALLY LOVE TO KNOW!!!! thanks!!!

Hey girl, sounds like there's a good chance he does. Try smiling back and talking with him more. Even if he doesn't like you like that, he def wants to be friends. Get a li'l closer and maybe try flirting a bit. This sounds like the start of something wonderful to me.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

oigwlmvm66 on 10/8/2009 12:10:45 AM

One of my crushes found out i liked him by a guy overhearing what i was talking about to a friend, and now he doesn't even acknowledge me when he sees me since he's found out i like him. Why is he doing this? Please help!!

-Alisha

xxxhoneypiexxx on 10/7/2009 10:45:35 PM

Well heres the thing i have a boyfriend and he wants me to kiss him how? WAT DO I DO!?!?

Linsey ya diqq on 10/2/2009 3:32:38 PM

So i was going out with this guy, and somebody told him that I kissed somebody else. But I didn't! I have never kissed anybody but the guy I was dating! So there was a whole lot of drama, but we worked it out! But the next day he text me and was like, "I heard you were going to break up with me if I didnt kiss you." And I was like "WHAT???? NO I WOULD NEVER DO THAT!!!!!!!!" and I was telling him that I wasnt going to for like 15 minutes! and finally he just said, "I know one way we could get the drama to stop. But it might not make things better." and I was like "What?" and he was like "If we break up..."
and then he called me and broke up with me. That was 4 weeks ago. I am still sooo depressed.I love him! What do I do to get over him?

star2be717 on 10/1/2009 8:05:05 PM

also he is my cousins friend and he told my he liked me and how he he said no because im a girl. I firted to him and he did it back.Plus whenI was about to my cousin said right infront of him he's not going to say no he likes you to and he acted like he was about to punch him in the face but he did'nt....A mouth later I saw him at the skate park and I still like he but he started to flrit with right in front of me and he saw me my friend said what a jrek .

cheyanne haley on 9/30/2009 5:19:43 PM

I ONCE asked a guy out he said no because im a girl and i guess the boys are suposed to do it, but he to chiken to do it him self.Also my friends made right infront of him.Now he's not over but when he is we do not talk.

cheyanne haley on 9/30/2009 5:06:38 PM

My neighbor who I really like is soooo sending me mixed signals one day he winks at me and makes kissy faces at me and the next he is like totally not into me at ALL! I'm so confused right now because I dont know wether to act like I like him or to keep my feelings secret . I HAVENT EVEN TOLD MY PARENTS THIS!

Alexus101 on 9/26/2009 7:48:22 PM

I have a sad story.......my bf and I were testing eachother and told eachother we loved eachother but 3 days later he broke up with me all because some other girl who liked him told him sum stuff about me that wasn't true and he was all sad after he broke up with me : ( cry cry

smalgirl on 9/25/2009 11:29:18 PM

I NEED HELP!! My BFF and I both really like guys, not the same one, but they won't talk to us. They don't really notice us. How can I get them to notice us.

meme1997 on 9/8/2009 7:41:56 PM

MOD: That other comment was for you but it didnt have mod on it so answer that one

Hey girl. I just answered your comment. Mel

Melany T.

bballinn123 on 8/25/2009 12:48:24 PM

MOD!!! so there was this guy i really liked, so i started flirting and talking to him like all of the time. I thought he was flirting back and all of my friends did, too. I asked him out because i totally thought he would say yes. But he said NO.my mom and my best friend, Meghan (my mom, too)said he was just shocked and didnt know what to say. I had a hard time beliving this because he got a girlfriend ( not me) the next week. So, did he just feel bad so he talked back? was he really not flirting? (he always agreed with me)was he really just concentrated on the other girl he (maybe im not sure who asked who)possibly liked? did he really not like me? so confused! what does this mean?

Hey girl. I'm with your Mom and your other Mom (lol)! He prob was totally shocked. Since he has a gf that's the reason. Don't take it personally girlie it happens to all us girls at least once! Mel

Melany T.

bballinn123 on 8/25/2009 12:40:55 PM

so there was this guy i really liked, so i started flirting and talking to him like all of the time. I thought he was flirting back and all of my friends did, too. I asked him out because i totally thought he would say yes. But he said NO.my mom and my best friend, Meghan (my mom, too)said he was just shocked and didnt know what to say. I had a hard time beliving this because he got a girlfriend ( not me) the next week. So, did he just feel bad so he talked back? was he really not flirting? (he always agreed with me)was he really just concentrated on the other girl he (maybe im not sure who asked who)possibly liked? did he really not like me? so confused! what does this mean?

bballinn123 on 8/25/2009 12:39:48 PM

MOD:
i was at my friends house once and i started texting this guy that she knew. he seemed really nice and we were texting 24/7 for about two weeks. i was talking to him and he said i should come down to the fair and hang out with him. last night i was there and he didnt know that i was watching him and i saw him with another girl. he kept saying that there was something going on between us and i really started to like him but last night i started to question everything. i havent had a bf since 6th grade and im going into 9th. i have no idea what to do. i cant stop thinking about him. please help.

that's tough if he has a girlfriend--but you should really make sure that he's taken before you despair!

Katie P.

emma-lee on 8/9/2009 1:54:26 PM

well i have a question i just broke up with my boyfriend 4the same reason but waz not kissing it waz flirtting and now its the summer and i just keep thinking about him so wat should i do go back with him or just 4get or wat does this mean i worried and this been a on and off thing but i dont kno if i should just turn it off

cutestylingurl on 8/6/2009 1:12:25 AM

I think yo are pretty much GF and BF

lcummings on 8/4/2009 4:53:41 PM

hey girlies can anyone help me with my boy prob! if you can just check my profile it'll b there.. plez help me!

ice-sk8ing-chick08 on 8/3/2009 2:06:46 PM

ok Dulcybear52 why did he break up wth u in the 1st place if he was just being a jerk then say alright we can still be friends but try no 2 get 2 close 2 him again and if u do the things might go right back 2 him breaking up with u tlk talk later k

lovelinds1 on 7/31/2009 9:54:49 PM

MOD!!
I have the most confusing guy friend on this gods green earth.
I used to like him a lot, but now I know we're just close friends.
Well, atleast to me.
Lately he's been acting nicer, joking more, teasing, asking for my opinion on things, and he just KNOWS when I'm upset and he asks if I need to talk. We even talk for 1 to 5 hours at a time.
But for the past few days he's been acting more distant towards me, and sometimes he's just outright mean, or rude.
I asked one of my guy friends what he thinks, and he thinks he likes me.
I don't think that's the case.
But I really need to know what other people think.

Hey girl! Ugh, guys can be SO confusing and frustrating. Because guys can be hard to read and I don't know him, I'm not sure how exactly he might be feeling. I would say that your best option is to talk to him yourself about how you're feeling. If you guys talk for long periods at a time and he knows when you're upset, then it sounds like you two have a fairly honest, open relationship with each other in which you can share things. Tell him how you're feeling and see how he responds. You can also be honest about when he's distant and rude to you and what that does to you emotionally. Even if it's not the response you want to hear, you'll feel SO much better just to know the truth.

xx katy

Katy J.

PrettyOdd93 on 7/25/2009 12:42:02 PM

***!!!MODMODMOD!!!***
Okay, so I want to get my hair cut in a shaggy, layered, kinda rocker-chic sort of way. Thing is, I'm more of a girly/preppy kind of girl...not rocker!!! I think the cut is soooo cute, though!!! (it's actually the one Taylor Momsen sported in the latest GL issue) Should I get it????? Please help!!

Hey girl,

Think I just got to ya on another post

Caitlin R.

the brave little toaster on 7/22/2009 9:43:47 PM

***!!!MODMODMOD!!!***
Okay, so I want to get my hair cut in a shaggy, layered, kinda rocker-chic sort of way. Thing is, I'm mopre of a girly/preppy kind of girl...not rocker!!! I think the cut is soooo cute, though!!! (it's actually the one Taylor Momsen sported in the latest GL issue) Should I get it????? Please help!!

Hmmm...it all depends on face shape for that cut. If you think it would look good, go for it. You can always keep it a li'l more classic looking but not mussing it up as much.

Caitlin R.

the brave little toaster on 7/22/2009 9:26:04 PM

MOD My comments aren't showing up. I posted it last night and it didn't show up. I'm sorry i don't want to sound mean it's just it was an advice question. Thx Bye!

Hey girl, I'm not sure why we never got to it but just ask it again and we'll be sure to give you our advice right away!

Brooke E.

allie.skates on 7/17/2009 11:33:27 AM

i think yall are a couple but sometimes guys are SCARED (yes scared) to define it that. i dont think he is scared of commitment i think he is just scared that you dont feel the same way he does so he doesnt want to embarass himself for confessing his undying love for you while he still thinks you might think of him as a friend.

BUT I THINK YALL ARE SO A COUPLE; that was just my opinion.

good luck

(peace.love.cheerleading)!!!

peace.love.cheerleading on 7/12/2009 11:41:06 PM

thats how me and my bff are but when some one ask if we are dating he says ''no'' idk what to do

turtlegirl

turtlegirl74 on 7/12/2009 2:43:29 PM

~MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD~!!!
OK well today one of my bgfs said he liked me and i guess i like him to but i think that another guy is the most amazing person and hes funny and cute and i have liked him for forever. should i go for the guy that already likes me or continue to like the guy of my dreams who is like my brother

Hey babe,

Trust your instincts. If you're not really feeling it with your bfg, go for the other guy. If you try to force something where there isn't anything you might lose your friend.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

ilovemypetz on 7/3/2009 9:26:54 PM

WHAT IS A MOD? I am new and have no idea what a mod id. Please tell me if you know what a mod is.....

lilxhammer13 on 7/3/2009 7:57:32 PM

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