I had these 2 friends and we’re not friends anymore. Those “friends” and I both have this friend named Patrice. Well I guess she got in a fight with them because lately she’s been hanging out with me lately. But now, she’s friends with them again and whenever she’s with them they turn their back on me and are kind of rude. I don’t care, but she’s starting to be rude to me too. She still hangs out w/ me but when she’s with them, she’ll turn around and ignore me. What do I do?
-Pretty Beach Gal
Hey Girlie,
The biggest issue here is that you are making her a priority when she is thinking of you as a second option. She shouldn’t be hanging out with you just because her friends are mad at her. She should be choosing to hang out with you over these other girls. Especially because you’ve always been there for her when she needed you.
Confront her and ask her why when the other girls are around she gives you the cold shoulder. If you are open about how her behavior makes you feel, she can have the chance to correct it. She may not even realize what she is doing. She may be picking up on the cues from the rest of the group and following their lead. But even if that’s the case, she should stick up for you or introduce you to the group so you aren’t left out.
If she is cautious to invite you into her posse, take it upon yourself to introduce yourself or talk to them. There is no reason why you can’t make friends with them yourself.
Good Luck!
Jana
BY JIAE K. ON 4/16/2008 12:00:00 AM 191 COMMENTS