My BFF is mad at me! My buddy icon is a pic that I Photoshopped. It's really cool and I love it. My crush even complimented it twice. So one day I was chatting w/ her and she asked me to change the pic b/c she thinks she looks bad. I don't want to b/c she looks fine. When I refused, she started yelling at me and swearing. She’s worried people are going to start gossiping and hate her b/c she looks bad in the pic. I told her that wouldn't happen and to stop worrying about what others think. Then! She blocked me! She won’t talk to me till I delete the pic for good. I'm just so sick of trying to please everyone all the time for small things like this. How can I get her to talk to me? I said hi to her yesterday but she slammed her locker shut, stuck her nose in the air and walked away.
-TheGreatEscape
Hey girl,
This reminds me of a similar situation I had with my childhood BFF when I was your age. I sent a picture of us to a crush of mine because (to be totally honest) I looked really good in it. But she didn’t like how she looked and got really upset with me for sending it. She held a grudge for a little while, but you know what? She got over it eventually…that is, until she got mad at me for other petty things.
I definitely understand that you are frustrated because you know she wouldn’t show you the same courtesy – but don’t stoop down to her level. If there’s any way you can compromise, try to. Maybe you can crop her out of the picture. Or find a new picture you like just as much. If you are considerate enough to try to compromise, than you’re a great friend and she’s lucky to have you. But, if she’s willing to throw your friendship away over something as petty as a not-so-flattering picture, maybe she’s not the friend you thought she was – and, as with my friend, it’ll probably end up being a pattern with her.
Try to apologize to her and give her some time to get over it. But while you should try to be a good friend, be careful that she doesn’t walk all over you. Eventually you may have to put your foot down and tell her she needs to respect your feelings as well.
<3 Jessie M.
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BY JIAE K. ON 4/23/2008 12:00:00 AM 136 COMMENTS