My best friend always wants to get together with me every other day. The thing is I want my space sometimes and be alone. When she asks me to come over I lie and say, “Oh, I'm going to my grandparent’s house, maybe another time.” Or something like, ”Oh, I have tons of homework.” I really hate to lie! So how do I tell the truth without hurting her feelings?
-MeGirl
You have to stop lying girl, that’s such a betrayal to your friend, especially your best friend. I know you don’t want to hurt her feelings, but it will hurt more if you get caught in the lie. Trust is very, very difficult to get back.
Instead of concocting an elaborate story about why you can’t be with her every second of every day, why don’t you just start saying no. Obviously say it in a polite way, something along the lines of “I love you girl, and you’re my best friend, but I kind of need some independent time to get some things done.” She will understand. Everyone needs a moment to breathe and be free of obligations and responsibilities.
If her feelings seem hurt, reassure her that you aren’t mad and you just need a little me time. Make sure that you get together with your bud every week or so, that way you two can stay connected. You don’t want to focus so much on yourself that you lose sight of all the people who are important to you.
-Jana
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BY JIAE K. ON 4/30/2008 12:00:00 AM 231 COMMENTS