One of my friends is feeling left out of our clique. She told me that she feels I’m the center of attention, and that I steal the spotlight from her. How can we make her feel part of the group?

Dear Wants To Make Everybody Happy,

It’s impossible to make everybody happy. Really. If someone feels jealous or left out, it’s not necessarily your fault…or your problem to solve. Besides, does one girl have to be the “center of attention”? Continue to include the left-out girl in group activities, but drop the guilt. You clearly care about the feelings of others—and friends can’t ask for much more than that.

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BY ANDREA T. ON 4/25/2008 11:24:00 AM 242 COMMENTS