I am so sick of boys throwing things at me, like pen caps and stuff. And once during PE they threw a baseball at my back! And also, they call me bad names sometimes. I think they treat me this way b/c I have bad acne. I'm not the prettiest thing and am overweight. I’ve told them to stop and I’ve told teachers, but nothing works. I really feel like a baby asking for help, but I really want this to stop!
-Smuckers94
Don't feel like a baby! Anyone in your position would want it to stop, and we're all here for you. However, it is challenging to give you a great answer, because bullies are never easy to deal with. I would try to tell you to talk to them and find out why they're acting this way, or to tell your teachers, but apparently you’ve tried to no success. So, if you can't get them to stop, the next best thing is to learn how to cope.
First off, you definitely need to build up some self-confidence, babe! Honestly, people will pick on the weak to make themselves feel more important—just because they can. But if you don't pay them any attention or let them get to you and hold your head up high, eventually they'll get bored. They do these things to get a response from you. And if they're not getting whatever it is they get out of picking on you, they'll probably give up. But if you don't have any confidence in yourself, you are only letting them win. So try to show that you don't care what they say or do—why would their actions and opinions be of any importance to you? Confidence can give a person a glow like no makeup kit or outfit ever could.
So, if at all possible, avoid and ignore them. Dismiss their immature actions as just that—immature. Of course if they do anything that could hurt you (like throwing a baseball at you!), please tell your teachers or even your principal.
<3 Jessie M.
ARE BOYS GIVING YOU THE BLUES? CLICK HERE to submit your own problem to be answered on Girl Talk!
BY JIAE K. ON 5/2/2008 12:00:00 AM 360 COMMENTS