I have this friend and she is in love with a senior in high school who doesn’t even know that she exists. We are freshman and she stalks him. She found his paper and she kept it and still has it. One day she even almost got ran over by him and she was fine with it as long as it was him that ran her over. Also, he has a girlfriend and she wishes that the girl would die so that he would be single. She is no longer a fun person because she talks about him nonstop, it is so annoying that sometimes I even block her calls and texts. How can I get her to stop her stalkerish behavior.
-redhead
Infatuation isn't uncommon at this age (which is why so many parents are hesitant to let their kids date too young, for fear of infatuation being misinterpreted as a stronger feeling). She will probably grow out of it, and will actually probably look back and feel silly about it.
But for now, I can definitely understand that you, as her friend, are tired of hearing her go on and on about it. If her infatuation is affecting her to the point that she can't seem to have any fun otherwise, you should talk to her about it.
Don't rag on her for liking him so much when he doesn't even know her. That will only cause her to become defensive and feel hurt. Instead, tell her you understand she likes him, but unfortunately he is taken and she has to accept that and move on. It's not healthy to pine after something unobtainable. Let her know that you are her friend and you are always there for her, but it's starting to affect your friendship because it's really tiring that all she ever talks about is him. See if you can come to a compromise of limiting how much she talks about him around you. Hopefully she'll realize that her infatuation with this guy is causing her to be a bad friend and will make her at least want to refrain somewhat for the sake of your friendship.
<3 Jessie M.
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BY ANDREA T. ON 5/8/2008 7:38:00 AM 94 COMMENTS