So I like to have friends over for sleepovers, any girl does, right? Well, whenever I have a friend over my 5 year-old little sister always wants to hang out with us! I hate that! Sometimes my mom makes me let her. MY FRIENDS! NOT HERS! And, since she wants to hang out with me and my friend, she always get to have a friend too! So she doesn’t feel jealous. She always has her best friend named Bella. (who doesn’t go to her school anymore) so they ALWAYS see each other, even when I don’t have a friend! It’s NOT fair. I know, I know life is not fair, but still! For once, I would like to have MY friend over without interruptions, and my sister not having her friend 24/7! I GET SO ANNOYED WITH MY SISTER! I don’t want her to bug me and my friend, but I also don’t want her 2 always get a friend! She has to learn! PLEASE HELP!
- Smart'n'Sassy
Smart'n'Sassy,
While it's totally normal to get annoyed by a younger sibling, you've got to understand that she's hanging around because she admires you and your friends so much. To her, you gals are rockstars. You get to do all sorts of things she doesn't and she feels a little bit cooler when she gets to hang out with the older girls. She's watching your every move, trying to figure out what she wants to be like when she's older and probably trying to model herself after you. You're her role model, and having her see you get super annoying and short tempered is not going to help her in the long run.
Your sister is five years old, meaning that she's got a whole lot of free time on her hands. Free time that is usually used for play dates with younger children. You probably had a whole lot of them when you were younger too. What else is a five year old supposed to do? She can't read a whole book right now like you can and she doesn't have the patience to see a project out to its completion. She needs to have a buddy around to help her learn and grow and express her creativity.
Why don't you try to strike a deal with your mom and sister about your private time when you have a friend over? Offer that your sister is able to hang out with you gals for a certain amount of time before the big girls need to be left alone, or offer to play a certain game with her, then go do your thing. You don't have to do this every time, but showing your sister that you care about her, and setting a good example for her, is definitely the sisterly thing to do.
-Alli
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BY ANDREA T. ON 5/24/2008 3:08:00 AM 36 COMMENTS