Dear Carol

I'm NOT Perfect!

 
Sometimes I feel like my parents expect too much and I have to do everything at once.
 
Be a perfect daughter, super student, great athlete, good friend, and participate in lots of activities, and I get stressed out.
 
—Totally Stressed Out

Dear Totally Stressed Out,
 
If it’s your parents who expect too much, tell them you’re feeling stretched too thin. They may love that you’re a good person and an achiever, and may not realize how stressed you feel. You may find, however, that you’re actually pushing yourself, not just getting pushed. For energetic people with lots of friends and interests, life can be exciting—and sometimes exhausting.
 
Take care of yourself by getting enough sleep, down-time, and nourishment. Remind yourself that you want to enjoy life, not just live efficiently or squeeze everything in or do everything well. Remind yourself, too, that if you’re anxious about the school play or cast party afterward, that is Positive Stress. Too many activities? Which can you do without? No time to get together with friends? Touch base on the phone or on-line.
 
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 6/12/2009 7:00:00 AM 98 COMMENTS