I don't know which high school I want to go to next year because one of my very best friends is going to one school while my other bestie is going to the other high school! I have the option to choose.
I don't want to pick between my two best friends. Help!
Hey girl,
It can be way hard when you’re making a big decision like which school to go to. High school, college, or beyond, these are decisions that’ll influence more than just who you see each day—they'll influence where you go in the future. That’s why, girlie, it’s way important that you weigh each option out carefully. It can seem like you’re choosing between your besties, but the truth is, you’ve gotta choose what’s best for you.
Pros and cons
When choosing a school, don’t sweat about which gal is going to be there. Think about what school has the best program for you. Is High School A way strong in math and science? If that’s where you see yourself in the future, go for that school. Does High School B have an awesome lax team you want to join? Go for the gold there! Make a pro/con list for each and weigh your options—also if one choice is a private school, keep the price tag in mind: is it worth it? When it comes to big decisions like this, grab a li'l extra help too from your fave tutors: your ‘rents. They’ll know how to help you pick the school that’s best for you.
It all goes back to...you!
And here’s the biggest lesson of all, chica: You should pick your school for you, not for your friends. Back when my friends were choosing where to go for college (years away for you!), I would always tell them not to choose their school based off where their BFs were going. Their choice should depend on what’s right for them and their future. The BF, even if he was states away, was way easy to stay in touch with: there’s Skype, Facebook, texting, etc. And if they didn’t last? Then they were still at the places that were the best fit for themselves. So what’s the tie-in to you? Well, your friends are close by, and if they can make it work, so can you! You won’t be crossing state-lines so no matter where you go, you can still keep and see both of your pals. Try getting involved in a community sport together. Have a slumber party each weekend. Just ‘cause schools divide you during the day doesn’t mean it can’t add up to weekend fun and friendships that last forever!
In high school, girlie, you’re going to meet tons of new people. While it’s totes okay to keep the old ones at heart, don’t sweat the distance ‘cause they can and always will be a part of your life. This choice, girl? It’s the ultimate test but you can ace it. What’s best for you? What do you want to do in high school and beyond? Where do you see yourself fitting in best? Go with what your heart tells you. Good luck!
Infinite xoxo’s,
Alyssa B.
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/8/2009 7:00:00 AM 56 COMMENTS