This boy and I are going to a dance together, but I'm not sure if we are going as friends or as more than that. He asked me to go homecoming with him because he heard that I liked him. When I asked him if he was going with me because of that, he said of course not. At sports games, we act like a couple and flirt the whole time. At school, we walk with each other, and at parties, we pretty much hang out the whole time together.
The only issue is that I don't know if we really are a couple. Sometimes he will flirt with me nonstop but the next day he'll avoid me. I almost feel like I like him a lot more than he likes me. He has even talked to my girlfriends about asking meout and his friends always tease me about him. How do I tell if he likes me more than just a friend? I'm so confused.
Hey girl,
I totally know how you feel. It's SO frustrating when boys circle around their feelings and never make it clear. But you know what? It just
might be that your almost-BF is confused just like you! He could be wondering right now, "does she like me or not?" So in order to solve this messy puzzle, here are some tips that will get you and your boy together for good!
Make sure this is ONLY about you and him
When you want a guy to know how you feel and you want to know what he feels you can't have the whole "she said, he said" deal. In other words, he shouldn't hear things through your friends and you shouldn't tune in so much to what his friends have to say about you and your guy. It should be simple: you talk to him; he talks to you. When word travels through a grapevine, it gets a little too crazy and sometimes too much for a person to handle.
Make the first move
If this guy asked you to homecoming, it¹s a pretty good sign that he's interested in you. So the first move was taken care of by the guy. But let's face it: homecoming is a HUGE event and it gets hectic. If you really want to get closer to him or at least know what's going on in his mind, make the next move and ask him out. Watch a movie, grab something to eat, and just make sure the entire school isn't around. It'll give you more one-on-one time to REALLY talk.
Don't panic over his little actions.
It's great to flirt and hang with the guy you like. But just because he doesn't act into you every day or all the time, does NOT mean that he¹s trying to avoid you. Like any person, your guy probably needs some space and time. Who doesn't? If you keep it cool and let the flirting happen naturally, he'll like how chill you are. I know these tips aren't drastically big steps, but that's all you'll need in this crush-mess. He'll have the chance to really get to know you and appreciate you more than he ever did. And that will undoubtedly let your
guy realize what he's gotta do. ;]
Best wishes,
Jeannie
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/30/2009 7:00:00 AM 86 COMMENTS