Dear Carol

A distant kiss

 
 
He’s not blood-related and I had never met him, but we are related by marriage. He is my fourth or fifth cousin once or twice removed. Should I feel as ashamed as I do?

 

Dear Distant Kiss,

 

Let yourself off the hook. Unless you two were interrupted in the coat room by Uncle Oscar, there is no need to feel endlessly ashamed. Move on, and focus on what makes you proud of yourself rather than what makes you cringe.

 

When girls crush on cousins, it is important not to cross lines or test taboos—so I wouldn’t recommend going there again. This boy is not part of your close circle and besides, you are not asking, “Should I kiss him again?” but “Should I forgive myself?” So my advice is: Yep.

 

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BY CAROL WESTON ON 12/3/2010 7:00:00 AM

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