Crushes

Boy or bestie: What to do when you and your BFF like the same guy


 
My friend and I like the same guy, and she won’t stop talking about it! Do we have to stop being friends?

Hey girl! Crushes can be super tricky, especially when you share them with your friends. But as your mom has probably told you, guys come and go, but friends last forever. So even though it might be tempting to compete with your friend for that cutie from math class, it isn’t worth losing a friend over! So, what can you do?
 
Talk to your friend. It’s a sticky topic to bring up, but both of you will benefit from a little honesty. She might tell you that she’s moved on – in that case, great! You can pursue your crush without hurting her. Has he told her he likes her back? In that case, you should leave the two of them alone, and do your best to be happy for her – she is your friend, after all!
 

And what if you both don’t know if he likes either of you? Agree to both play it cool, because your friendship isn’t worth the trouble. If he says he likes either one of you, you can decide with your friend whether you’ll go for it or whether you’ll both agree not to date him since you value each other over a guy.

 
Whatever you do, don’t try to outdo your friend to impress your crush, and don’t say or do anything mean to her to get his attention! You’re still young, babes – there are plenty of guys you’ll meet down the road, but the friends you make now could be yours for life, so give them the respect they deserve and they’ll do the same for you.
 
 
 

BY MEGHAN DEMARIA ON 12/3/2011 12:00:00 AM

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