There was a holiday dance, and I was
with my BF as usual. He took me into a dark room, where he tried to
touch my chest and other inappropriate places. It made me
uncomfortable. Should I tell someone?
I hope you told him! You could have
said, “I don’t want to be in this room,” or “Don’t put your
hands there,” or “No, stop, I don’t want to do this. Let’s go
back to the dance.” You might have felt uncomfortable saying this,
but you felt even more uncomfortable not saying anything, right? It’s
important to express your feelings out loud, and just as important
for him to listen and respect them. As for telling someone what
happened, that’s up to you. Would you feel better talking to your
mom or a counselor? Is this romance even right for you? You need to
make your BF understand that you felt uneasy by his actions. Make
this clear so there won’t be any confusion in the future. If he
still attempts to touch you inappropriately after you’ve told him,
he’d be most ideal as…an ex-boyfriend.
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BY CAROL WESTON ON 12/14/2011 11:00:00 AM
POSTED IN guys, dating advice, GL's best guy advice, boyfriend Q & A, pressure to get physical, too far too fast, dance, advice, advice from Carol Weston