Dating

How to handle a fast-moving relationship



How do I handle a guy who is taking our relationship way too fast?

Chica, no matter what guy you're involved with or how much you care for him, your needs have to come first in this kind of situation. There is no time when it is okay for you to feel uncomfortable or nervous because your boy is pushing things ahead a little bit more quickly than you would like -- whether it's an earlier-than-expected "L" bomb, a way-too-soon-for-this physicalness, or another boundary-crossing relationship expectation.

You should only be with someone else if you're happy. Yes, his happiness counts too, but you must draw the line at what makes you comfortable. While keeping that in mind, talk to your BF and let him know that you have concerns about the pace of the relationship. Make sure he knows that you do have feelings for him and want to continue to grow closer, but that you would like to do so at your own speed.

If he's truly worth your time, then he will understand. If he doesn't understand and instead decides to have a hissy fit over it, then you know that he's not quite the person you thought he was. There will be someone who is overjoyed just to have you in his life. If it's not this one, it's another one that you'll find in no time!

BY JORDAN SARNOVSKY ON 1/29/2012 12:00:00 AM

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