You and your crew have been stuck together like glue every
Saturday night for years, but that doesn’t mean your slumber party traditions
can’t handle a new hunnie. A fresh face can liven up your bunch, expand your
social circle and make your sleepover Saturdays fabber than ever before. Here’s
how to introduce a new pal to your posse and make the big night totally
Kick it off right
Your sleepover doesn’t start when your guests walk in the
door. Heighten the anticipation and the “this is special!” feeling by hand
delivering an invite to your new friend. Tell her you and your buds really want
her to join in the fun this week, then offer up a cute card with all the
details, including anything she needs to bring—polish for manis, sleeping bag
and pillow, munchies for a midnight potluck snack.
Break the ice
It’s hard being the odd one out of group of girls who’ve
been friends since the dawn of time…or at least since the first day of third
grade. Ask your new chica to come over a little earlier than the rest of the
gang so you can get comfy with each other, and you can give her the grand tour. Then when the whole crew’s there,
bust awkward silence with a ridic ice-breaker game.
Try something new
Falling into your same-old sleepover routine—manis, then
pedis, then a gossip sesh, then a rom-com marathon—will quickly have your new
pal feeling like she doesn’t belong. Try creating a new tradition. Maybe you
can do a DIY, film a dance video or watch PLL from the very beginning. That way, you’ll be creating fresh memories
with your expanding social circle.
Periodically throughout the night, ask her if she’s doing
OK—if she needs anything to drink, if she’s hungry, if there’s anything she
wants to watch or listen to. Chances are she’s feelin’ a li’l too shy to speak
up for herself in this new situation. Don’t single her out, but when you two
are thrown together and it feels natural to pop the Q, don’t say silent.
It’s easy to fall back into old habits when you’re doing so
many familiar things, but diving into drama with your BFF when your new friend
has no idea what you’re even talking about is only gonna make her
uncomfortable. Ask her who’s she’s crushing on, what she does for fun and, when
you do talk shop with your sistahs, be
sure to fill her in on the back story.
BY GL ON 2/2/2012 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN how can I make new friends, weekend fun, sleepover, how to throw a killer party