I have a hard time with showing my
emotions to people. It 's only hard for me because I think it's
embarrassing. But my boyfriend wants me to share my feelings with him
and I can't do that. What should I do?
Embarrassment is a sensation we get
when we feel like we are doing something that is against the social
norm. Your environment has conditioned you to think that showing
emotion to others is not normal.
That being said, showing emotion to
your loved ones is perfectly normal and acceptable. Your boyfriend is
someone who cares about you a lot and wants to know what you are
feeling. It is OK to share your emotions with him. He is not going to
judge you or make fun of you. Chances are he just wants to share with
him so that he can feel closer to you.
For someone who is not very outwardly
emotional learning to share your feelings with your boyfriend can be
quite the task to attack it in baby steps. First let him know that
you are not very comfortable showing emotion, but that with a bit of
help you hope to become better at it. Second, begin to share your
feelings on small things such as test grades or community events.
This is going to help you form a trusting bond with him, which will
make talking about anything easier. Once you feel you are ready you
can begin to share your emotions with him about bigger issues like
family and your fears.
Remember, don’t rush! Take small
steps towards progress and your boyfriend should recognize the tough
personal work you are doing for the good of your relationship.
BY AMANDA POOLE ON 3/18/2012 12:00:00 AM
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