Last summer, my best friend for nearly all my life found a
new friend at camp. It wasn’t so bad, at first, but she always talks about
writing and calling her, and how she can’t wait to see her this summer. She
says it to my face! Should I tell her how I feel?
Dear Betrayed,
Two of my favorite things about being an adult are that we
don’t mind when friends have other friends and that no one tries to rub it in.
Have you really been betrayed? Your sister didn’t steal your boyfriend. Your
parents didn’t give away your room. Your neighbor didn’t post your secrets on
Facebook. True, your friend made another friend, but that’s not so bad—what’s
bat is that she’s boasting about it and that you’re letting it get to you.
Try to be honest with her and say, “Look, I know you’re
excited to see your camp friend, but enough already.” Also, why not work harder
to make your own new friends? Even if it’s too late to join chorus or try out
for the play, it’s never too late to say hi to a girl in chemistry lab or
invite the new girl over for a couple of movies and some popcorn.
BY CAROL WESTON ON 5/25/2012 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN bust my bestie problem, dear carol solves BFF probs, growing apart, how can I make new friends, dealing with jealousy, I'm feeling left out