My boyfriend is very sweet. But we are young, and he always
tries to kiss me and is becoming very obsessive. I don’t want to go out with
him if he keeps smothering me. It doesn’t help that his friends are my friends,
and that he is in all my classes, rides my bus and lives next door. Even if we
break up, it will be very awkward. What do you think I should do?
Dear Too Many Problems,
Time for you two to talk. Try, “I really like you. But I
don’t feel ready for kissing yet, and I wish you would respect that. Your
pressuring makes getting together less fun. You need to slow down a little.”
Will it be difficult for you to say this? Yes. But staying silent is already
difficult, right? If he cares about your feelings, he’ll listen. If he doesn’t,
he’s not BF-worthy. If you do break up, now or in the future, you can both be
friendly and mature so that seeing each other and sharing friends isn’t harder
than necessary.
BY CAROL WESTON ON 8/22/2012 12:00:00 AM
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