So your guy is giving you the cold shoulder and you’re
wondering what’s up. No girl wants to be ignored, but to fix his icy
mood, you may have to look in the mirror. But what are the signs that you’re
pushing him toward the nearest exit? Here’s what guys said when asked to weigh
“This girl I used to date would send me text after text. If
I wouldn’t respond she would just send more until I did. There was a definite
reason why I wasn’t answering her, but she didn’t get it.” Terry, 17
Put the phone down
girlies! Texting is a great way to communicate, but it can also be the number
one killer of a relationship. Give him some space. If he doesn’t answer right
away, he’s probably just busy.
“When I was hanging with the guys she would constantly call
my phone to see what I was doing, like she didn’t trust me or something. I
started telling her that my phone was dying so I wouldn’t have to deal with
it.” Alec, 16
If your guy starts
telling you that his phone is dying every single Friday night, something is up.
Back off a bit and let him have his dude time—besides it’s a great chance for
you to hang with the girls! A relationship works best with balance.
“I was hanging out with this girl and she was constantly
around. I couldn’t walk out of class without seeing her there waiting for me.
It got a little freaky. I started making sure I was surrounded by my friends so
that I wouldn’t have to walk with her.” Blake, 15
It’s cute to wait for
your guy after class. But if he starts avoiding you—that’s when you know you’ve
gone overboard. Don’t wait for him after
every bell, instead try stopping by his locker after lunch and walking to your
next class together.
“My girlfriend expected me to hang out with her every day.
If I didn’t she would get an attitude and start a fight over nothing. It got so
excessive that I eventually just started making up plans so I didn’t have to
hang out with her.” Conor, 14
When a guy is busy every time you ask him to hang out, he
probably isn’t being completely honest. Just because you’re in a relationship
doesn’t mean you have to spend every waking moment together. If he’s busy just
suggest a different time to hang. Guys don’t like to be attacked and starting a
fight won’t solve any problems.
“Before this girl
and I were even dating, she started writing sappy stuff on my Facebook…and we
had only hung out a few times! I never responded but she didn’t take the hint.”
When it comes to the
Internet, it usually isn’t a good idea to proclaim your love to the entire
world. Especially if you aren’t officially dating—it could freak out your guy!
A quick comment like: Hey nice pro pic is totally cool, but gushing about your
last date will have him running for the hills. Everything you do on the
Internet is public after all.
BY ALEXIS GAVRELIS ON 10/12/2012 12:00:00 PM
POSTED IN guys, dating advice, GL's best guy advice, how to flirt, crush crash course, boyfriend Q & A, texting, guy friend Q & A, playing it cool