A boy asked me
to our spring dance, and he’s sweet but not that attractive. I said no because
I just don’t think of him in that way. Does saying no to him make me shallow?
Also, there’s a boy I’m afraid to ask to the dance because I’m afraid of
rejection. Should I ask him?
Dear Am I
written to say that you like only hot guys and would never talk to anyone who
isn’t insanely popular, then yep, I’d call you shallow. But it’s not shallow to
decline an invitation to a dance from someone you don’t want to dance
with—especially if you’re polite about it. (Note: “No, but thank you for asking,” beats “Ugh!
In your dreams.”) As for risking rejection yourself, instead of boldly asking
him to the dance, why not smile and flirt and get some sparks going? You might
also try the oblique, “Are you going to Spring Fling?” rather than the
point-blank, “Want to go to Spring Fling?”
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BY CAROL WESTON ON 3/20/2013 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN guys, dating advice, GL's best guy advice, crush crash course, snag a date to the dance, turn him down gently, dance, advice, advice from Carol Weston