Okay, so this guy and I have dated twice, and he's a year
younger than me. He dumped me twice for the same girl, and now they broke up
for the second time and he wants me back. He seems to really like me this time,
but my mom said not to trust him because he will just hurt me again. I really
like him, though! Plus, he is sooo much sweeter this time! Another problem is
that this next school year I will be starting high school, and he will still be
in middle school, so I won't see him as much. But he lives across the street
from me, so does this really matter? Help!
Hey girlie! So let’s
address age diff first. The rule of thumb is no more than a two years between
you two at this point in your life. But more importantly, you two should be around
the same maturity level. If you’re comfortable being a little older, then I
don’t see the problem with dating a younger guy. And it sounds like you won’t
have an issue getting to spend time together.
However I think you should
be a little hesitant to get back together with this ex. Sounds to me like
you’ve been through this before. Is it really worth the risk to get hurt again?
I am all for second chances, but third chances are tougher. If you’re set on
giving him another chance, he really has to prove that he has changed, which I
hope he has. Proceed with caution until he has really earned your trust back!
He should be totally over the other girl before you let him back in.
Also, understand that your
mom wants what she thinks is best for you and would never want to see you get
hurt, so you can’t blame her for being unsure about this one. But if you’re
really set on getting back together with him, you should take it very slow.
Keep in mind that you’re going to be in high school soon, which will be an entirely
new environment. You will be meeting lots of new people and experiencing new
things so you might want a fresh start.
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BY CAROLINE MACLURE ON 5/12/2013 12:00:00 AM
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