For some families, fights seem like a routine. Perhaps you’re in your
room listening to music or studying when you hear the raised voices. And for
other families, it’s a once-in-a-blue-moon thing, but when it happens, perhaps
on a weekend road trip, it’s explosive. It doesn’t matter what they’re fighting
over—money troubles, work stress, family issues—for many girls, when they hear
Mom and Dad argue, the only thing that comes to mind is the D-word. Cue the freak-out.
Here’s how to survive fights that have
absolutely nothing to do with you.
#1 Remember: All relationships
have ups and downs
You know how you and your friends fight all the time? And how you and
your boyfriend are constantly arguing about something? And how you can be
fuming one day and fine the next? The same is true with your parents—they struggle
just like you do to get along with those closest to them. At the end of the
day, their relationship is about them, and while they might be going through a
rough patch, a bright spot may well be right around the corner.
#2 No really: It has nothing to
do with you
No matter what happens between your parents, you have to realize that
it does not involve you. Your less than perfect test scores, your inability to
remember your chores—none of that has any sort of bearing on your parents
getting along. Forcing an ideal of perfection upon yourself to try to solve
their problems will only create a huge amount of stress for you, and that’s not
#3 Keep calm by distracting
Panicking or crying yourself to sleep won’t help the situation. When
you’re feeling like life is spiraling out of control, it’s time to find a
healthy distraction. Deep breathing and yoga will keep your mind and body calm,
and listening to your favorite music or popping open a new book will help you
escape the situation temporarily. And if you feel the need to talk, don’t hesitate
to call your closest friends—that’s what they’re there for, after all.
How do you deal with fighting
parents? Share your tips in the comments.
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BY BRITTANY TAYLOR ON 9/24/2013 4:20:00 PM
POSTED IN dealing with divorce, problems with my parents, 411 on family feuds, my parents are fighting