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Weight is an issue for many teenage girls. People are
constantly uncomfortable in their own bodies, and the looming threat of obesity
makes it hard to feel fully confident. The "fat" issue is a major
problem in developing a high self-esteem. But what about the other word? What
about the girls who feel they are too skinny? Seems pretty stupid, doesn't it?
Trust me, it's not.
I've always been thin, even as a child. My first memory of
any negative remarks about my weight go back to the third grade. My friends and
I were talking about the 'cute' boys at recess, and I asked Ella if any boys
had a crush on me. "Well," she said, considering her options,
"Will said he might think you're cute if your legs weren't so
Bam. The first remark that embarked a down-hill spiral about
my body image. The fact was, Ella was a liar and we all knew it, but either way
she had no right to say what she did. This wasn't the last remark from Ella
either. For years after she periodically noted about my twig legs, each time
speaking about it as if it were a completely new revelation. Ella was on the
rounder side, and she was probably just jealous, but it didn't matter. She kept
making fun of my thin legs, and laughed at it, thinking it was some big joke.
Would she find it funny if I called her fat? Probably not, but apparently
making fun of a thin person’s weight isn't as big as a deal.
I became more and more used to these remarks as I grew up,
but eventually my group of friends changed and I was receiving more negative
remarks about not only my legs, but also my flat chess and scrawny stature. My
"best friend" Grace would always remind me how I was more flat-chested
than she. Always. Coming from the second-smallest girl in the class, I should
have just ignored it, but I couldn't. She was really rude about it.
She wasn't the only "friend" who made fun of me
though. Penny called me some pretty rude names, and Leigh one drew a picture of
our group, drawing everyone curvy except for me. I was straight up and down,
and that stung.
My issues weren't only with remarks, but with the thoughts I
began to have with myself. I felt uncomfortable in bikini bathing suits because
my ribs where so prominent. Jean shopping was a nightmare because nothing ever
fit me right. Skinny jeans always sagged, and by the time they actually fit me
in width, I'd have outgrown them in length.
By the time I reached grade seven, eating disorders had become
more well-known, and people would tell me that I should eat more, or go to
McDonalds, or whatever. What nobody knew was that I ate a lot—way more than my
weight would signify. I wasn't the type of girl who didn't go for seconds, or
shy away from dessert.
These remarks stayed with me for awhile, but by the 8th
grade friends like Penny and Leigh had matured enough so as not to tease me
anymore. Grace was a different story. Her remarks followed me until I got my
first period before she did. That shut her up about some aspects, but not them
all. The worst was one day on our way to gym she said "Stacey you’re so
skinny! You're like, anorexic." That was the worst thing anyone had ever
called me. And then several months later in the same situation she called me
anorexic again, as if she had forgot she had done so in the first place. I
never said anything, but looking back I wish I had.
I'm in high school now, and things are better. I filled out
and grew a lot taller. I'm happy to say I finally love my body. Instead of
people telling me I'm too skinny, they admire my long legs. I still have
insecurities, but changes in my overall appearance have altered them, and I
love myself a little more now. I guess the point is, that even if you think
your being funny, or kidding, or complimenting someone by calling them a rude
name about being too thin, you're not. You're being straight up rude and are
causing self-esteem issues. So please remember that calling someone "stick
thin" is just as bad as calling someone a "fat cow."
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BY GL READER ON 1/26/2014 12:00:00 PM
POSTED IN express yourself, you wrote it