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I think I might be gay. What should I do?


I’m worried because I’m in high school and I’m not having feelings for guys in my class, like my friends do. Sometimes, though, I think other girls are really gorgeous. I don’t know if I like them like that, but I think I just might. What do I do?

 

OK, babe, take a deep breath. The answer to your ‘what should I do?’ Q is…you don’t have to do anything. Let me explain…

 

You’re not wrong

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay. Or being bisexual. Or, while we’re on the subject, being transgender or transsexual or asexual. Or experimenting with your sexuality. Not a single thing, no matter what anyone else might say. Whatever you’re feeling is fine and normal and trust me when I say this, you are most definitely not alone. Even if other people around you won’t admit it, they are certainly some wondering the exact same things you are.

 

Talk it out

Find someone you know won’t judge you for having these thoughts and feelings, whether that’s a family member, a friend, a counselor, a coach, etc. Ask to speak with them alone, take a deep breath and dive in to the conversation. Remember: You don’t have to define yourself now (or ever). But discussing your thoughts and emotions with someone who is impartial can help you sort them out logically.

 

Find support

Even if you decide to stay silent, there are a lot of places that are ready and willing to offer you support, and a lot of them will let you remain anonymous. You can call a hotline anytime, like The Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386. You can log on to thetrevorproject.org. You can chat with teens just like you here. Sometimes it helps to know that there are other people feeling the things you feel—sometimes, that’s all you need.

 

 

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BY BRITTANY TAYLOR ON 2/25/2014 3:23:00 PM

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