My painful past is ruining my relationship
Dear Flustered and Confused,
I’m so sorry someone took terrible advantage of you. It’s normal to want to take things slowly, and it’s admirable that you’re honest with your boyfriend. Try saying, “I care about you, but I get nervous.” Remind him not to take it personally when you pull away.
It might also help to talk to a counselor or to call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE. Take your time. If your boyfriend pressures you, you should re-evaluate the relationship. If he isn’t supportive, he might not be right for you.