Obsessed much? How to handle a smothering sweetie
My boyfriend is very sweet. But we are young, and he always tries to kiss me and is becoming very obsessive. I don’t want to go out with him if he keeps smothering me. It doesn’t help that his friends are my friends, and that he is in all my classes, rides my bus and lives next door. Even if we break up, it will be very awkward. What do you think I should do?
Dear Too Many Problems,
Time for you two to talk. Try, “I really like you. But I don’t feel ready for kissing yet, and I wish you would respect that. Your pressuring makes getting together less fun. You need to slow down a little.” Will it be difficult for you to say this? Yes. But staying silent is already difficult, right? If he cares about your feelings, he’ll listen. If he doesn’t, he’s not BF-worthy. If you do break up, now or in the future, you can both be friendly and mature so that seeing each other and sharing friends isn’t harder than necessary.
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