Should you make the first move?

So we hear you have a special someone on your mind lately, and now, all you can think about is what it would be like to be with your crush. You two would have heartfelt conversations, go on adorbs ice skating dates and be the epitome of #relationshipgoals. You want to lock this cutie down badly, but how? You could wait around for them to ask you out...or you can make the first move, which we totally think you should do. Ready to give it a shot? Here's how.

Analyze but—don’t over-analyze—the sitch
We know you like this person, but does your crush feel the same way? Observe how they act around you. Are they excited or reserved? Does this person go out of their way to talk to you? Some people are naturally shy, but if they give you the cold shoulder more often than not, you may want to rethink whether this cutie is more meanie than sweetie.

Destroy double standards
If you determine that your crush may reciprocate your feelings, you should definitely make the first move. Silence friends and naysayers who tell you that it’s a guy's place to do the asking—you have every right to ask someone out who you like. Being a girl does not mean you have to wait around and be passive. If a guy is weirded out by you making the first move, then ditch him—he needs to get with the times and accept that this is the 21st century and girls can ask guys out, too.

Keep it casual
Rather than professing your undying love for your crush, consider sticking to something simple, like asking him if he wants to join you for a movie, dinner or a hot chocolate. If you’re stumped for ideas, check out these real girls’ favorite first dates for some inspiration. When you see your crush, say, “Hey, I was wondering if you want to go see a movie this Friday.” Be confident, smile and make eye contact, even if you’re feeling super nervous inside. Then, wait for his response. We’re rooting for you, girl.

Take a risk!
At the end of the day, you’ll probably be more bummed out by missing the opportunity to make a move than by anyone's rejection. After all, it usually feels better to have an “oh well” than a “what-if!” If your crush turns you down, it’s okay to feel disappointed, but know that it is his loss. Now you can rest easy knowing that you did everything in your power to make things happen with your crush...and move on to the next cutie instead.

Have you ever made the first move? What's your flirting strategy?


by Morgan Ome | 12/14/2017
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